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Thursday, February 12, 2026

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What hurts me the most is that there is no physical touch. It's like I have the plague. But she spontanly touches the children and her parents with no problem.
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Divorce her.
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Same, the kids, dogs, neighbors & friends receive affection, I get nothing.
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gives more affection to the dog.
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​ @brazidas58 Mine gives more affection to wild animals
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She will ice you and then blame you for not having an "emotional connection" and why she no longer behaves like a woman. I asked my qife what her job was as a wife. Not as a mom, but as a wife. I webt through my husbandly list and i fell short of many. She wouldn't asnwer becsuse she couldn't without facing the pain of seeing herself.
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 @nunyabusiness863 I felt this one… constantly pushes me away, and then wonders why we don’t have a connection…. Divorced for about 4 years, she still says she wants me back, but I’m so much happier now, best decision I ever made. Even though it was painful, especially bc we have a young child together. I still wouldn’t change a thing bc it’s a pitiful existence as a man.
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Join the club…
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She’ll let the dogs lick her mouth but hasn’t kissed me in 8 years
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I'm a single man and I noticed this happened with women I dated after year 1 so in year two things slow down and intimacy kinda sucks. I learned that men in a marriage probably face a huge challenge to keep the intimacy going. I chose to not marry and only date because I can leave as soon as the intimacy dies.
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 @agnosticmanquestionsall2409  It is not due nature, it is culture. And obviously, there are exceptions to the rule. But. yeah, Western culture is cooked.
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You forgot respect. Women stop respecting their husbands. And they stop trying to have a good relationship with their husbands. They do not seem to care that all they contribute to the relationship is negativity. They stop being committed. Like it doesn’t matter what their relationship is like. Everything else is a priority over the relationship.
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Once we got married my wife stopped having sex spontaneously; stopped speaking to me politely; and stopped respecting me.
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The truth of your wife not having fun and not wanting sex with you is you were not her first choice, nor her second or even her third. You were just the sucker who she conned and she has contempt for you.
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Living alone is easier than being alone and married. Living alone is peaceful and drama free.
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Once married husband becomes their emotional punching bag.
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My first wife asked me why I wanted a divorce after 25+ years of marriage. I asked her where do you fit into my life? You are not a partner in the board room. You take no interest in my business ventures. You are not a partner in the play room. You take no interest in any of my hobbies and outside interests. You are not a partner in the bed room and haven't been since the kids were born. So where do you fit into my life all I am is a provider a housemate could do that for you.
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My parents were engaged in 1943. They got married in 1945, a month aftet he got home from the war. I was proud to witness tje amazing level of devotion that they had for each other. My mother would change her clothes, fix her hair and put on lipstick every evening when he came home from work. She lived her life grateful to God that he came home from the war. They made a wonderful life together and were a wonderful example.
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"People don't change, they just get tired of acting. "
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I watched my dad keep his marriage together for over 60 years. He did it by sacrificing his self and everything that he enjoyed.
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My "fun" ex wife bailed after 25 years and took over half my shit. Don't get married ever..... oh and she got fat, weighed more than me and I'm 6'2"
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Grandpa always said, "There's something in the wedding cake"
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Sums up my marriage of 37 years. However, I'm athletic and maybe gained 8 lbs in the last 40 years. She gained 100 pounds.
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Reminds me of that old joke about the Three Rings of Marriage: First comes the Engagement Ring, Second is the Wedding Ring, and Finally is the Suffering.
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The beautiful thing about this lady is she acknowledged that she was not a good wife at one point. Some people live a lifetime and never understand that you can live in peace, not get angry and fight. To make your home a refuge for everybody(including the guy who pays for everything)
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I'm a young woman who's going to be married soon, and this channel has been so eye-opening. I have a deep love and respect for men, and the behavior of wives I hear about in your videos and the stories I see in the comments absolutely break my heart. Thank you for bringing awareness to this issue. It has really helped me to steel my resolution to never mistreat or disrespect my future husband. I believe love is a decision, and I'm deciding now that no matter how hard things get, I will ALWAYS treat him well. I am praying for all men in loveless marriages. God bless you all.
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My mom is definitely one of these women. My parents are married for like 34 years or so and our entire childhood I actually wanted them to divorce because their relationship is so tumultuous. My mom is ocd and is never happy and my dad is a huge push over. She murdered his manhood.
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I've been married for 43 years and have not experienced any of this. We're still best friends and lovers who have fun together. Boy, did I luck out!
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Once a man gets married, fun’s over. Not just sex but frivolity, jokes, humor, spontaneity, light-heartedness, merriment go out the window. The wife becomes suspicious, borderline paranoid, tense and coiled like a cobra ready to strike out at any imagined slight or failure to walk properly on eggshells or assess the state of her ever-shifting moods.
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Happy life. No wife
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I’ve passed most of this information along to my 3 (now early/mid 20s) boys. The naivety stops at their generation. I only wish I had been red-pilled by my own father before marrying.
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Many men listen to this and think how to get my wife back to how she was. But she was never who you thought she was. If everything was a deception then there is no real relationship to save. The woman you fell in love with never existed. Leave.
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OMG. I’m crying. This is painfully true. Bottom line NEVER get married
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They say familiarity breeds contempt & nothing so contemptuous than a wife who friend zoned you 30 seconds after the wedding cake was cut.
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The loss of respect is huge. As is prioritizing the kids, dog, cat, well, everything over me. That’s a betrayal of the worst kind.
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My ex wife immediately stopped doing everything she committed to do after the marriage. To me, that's called lying. As the lies piled up and her refusal to acknowledge and address her lies multiplied so did my frustration and lack of trust in anything she said. Eventually it ended the marriage.
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It sounds like once you put on a show to ‘get’ what you want, snag a man, get more financial security, then you can just coast. And play the victim.
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This woman is unique. Her messages, 98% of all women out there absolutely loathe. Conversely, 98% of men would lie down in traffic to be with a person like this. She is just so cool.
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Mine maxed out 15 credit cards , I spent 15 years staring at her back as she slept with her back to me while she cuddled with the dog until she fell asleep . I spent years jumping through hoops and she said things will never be good until I change ….. then after I change I will have to prove it to her …. But it will take a long time . I never knew somebody could be that evil and manipulative .
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The moment I got married, the sex stopped immediately. I was lucky if I had sex two times a month. The respect left immediately. The soft words and encouragement. Always tired when it comes to me but is energetic when it comes to everyone else.
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How about we add to the list: No matter how wise she thinks you are, every idea the husband has is a bad idea
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#1 0:29 Having fun #2 3:41 Taking care of ones appearance #3 5:53 Being nice #4 7:29 Being independent #5 8:24 Stop having sex #6 9:40 Being affectionate #7 10:29 Shared hobbies and interests #8 11:18 Being the fun nice girl around friends and family #9 12:04 Being wifely and womanly #10 13:49 Being your best friend I've witnessed all of these first hand over a 15year period. I hope this message will reach young men so they can avoid the gas lighting and abuse women put men through.
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My wife loves me so I never had this happen. I've been married 33 years. Trad wifes rock! God first, spouse second give without explanation.
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It is called switching off the Demo Mode.
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19 years …. She has stopped all 10…… I filed on her 9/24/24…..
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Ugh, bait and switch bride. Been there, done that, got the divorce papers.
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It was shocking to me how much my wife changed after marriage and children. Before we were married, we did all kinds of things together, but once we had our first child, everything changed. She never had any time for us. Throughout our marriage, the children came first, and then her friends. I was lonely and depressed and in a sexless marriage for 15 years. When I finally decided to have fun alone, she divorced me.
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Here are the big 3 changes I noticed shortly after I got married: 1) she became less warmly attentive and affectionate (not speaking of sex here, but rather the small physical affections diminished and her overall emotional tone became less warm - dropped from an 8 to a 5, roughly); 2) without discussing it with me, she cut back on her work hours, reducing our household income (it seemed to me that once she was married, she felt she could "coast" or take it easy, relying on my income); and 3) she would make occasional sarcastic jabs at me, which were not there before marriage. Sex declined gradually, too, but that was bilateral, and I'm not that sexually driven a guy to begin with. It was the other three changes that bothered me more.
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My favorite line that never fails to get a laugh: "I don't do that anymore. I'm a married lady now."
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Mine stopped doing anything, as in nothing! The woman you date is never the same woman that you marry!
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Thanks for describing my wife to the letter
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The lack of fun segment hit home. I’ve struggled with that for a very long time. I can never figure out what happened to us. I still see her as the fun, smart, great looking lady I fell in love with. She sees me as the as some guy she’s been married to for 20 years. I understand why my single guy friends refuse to re-marry. They refuse to go through it again.
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There are even women out there NOT married but with kids and stopped doing all of these things. Because their agenda was not to get married but get kids. They were unhappy and thought that kids will make them happy, so they find and play good men, good providers and once the goal is reached, they show their real side.
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You forgot the money. All of a sudden, everything a good man wants to do is “too expensive,” but if it’s for her or the kids, no worries!
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Getting women to be accountable--impossible
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Your channel was so eye opening. I am a female that is older (64) and I have been married for 5 years now. I did not realize that women can be so nasty to their husbands. I love having fun still. In fact, I make it a point to have a "date night" on Wednesday because I know that we need to connect during the week, even though we both work. I still take care of myself (yes, a little more weight than when I was 25) but I have not let myself go. I still dress up for my husband and I have self respect and do not go out in sweats. I try hard to be nice to my husband and I do actually let some things go by but they are small things. There is no reason to start a fight because my husband leaves the dresser drawers slightly open. I just close them. No problem. I am independent and do things by myself and he does the same. Anyway, I am shocked that women treat men so poorly. Thank you for all you do and I hope many couples can benefit from your advice.
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It all comes down to not wanting intimacy and sex. They are unhappy with themselves so they sure as hell don’t want their men to be happy, so sex and intimacy is cut off rather early in the marriage.
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One of the things I've noticed is when children arrive, the center of her affection is no longer the husband. A comedian I saw summed it up: "DUDE! That kid is her flesh and blood! You are just some guy she met in a bar!".
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All my young nephews say they will never marry. They are well aware that the juice isn't worth the squeeze.
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So accurate it hurts but she’d never admit to any of this.
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Listening to this list brings back all the painful memories of what I went through when I was married, and it's been over 20 years since the divorce. The real truth is that the ex never did love me and I was the one she settled for. At the end, she not only stopped trying but became absolutely hateful like I was the blame for everything she was unhappy about and she was not going to tolerate it anymore. I will NEVER put myself in that situation again. I had blocked all this and now it comes rushing back. It feels like I am in a underground tunnel that is collapsing and I am suffocating all over again. What a absolutely horrible experience. Never again.
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This totally describes my sister! Warned the brother-in-law, he said you're single and don't know what you're talking about. He died at 54 from excessive smoking and drinking, no doubt from living with my sister. I, of course have been a lifetime confirmed bachelor so far at age 65 and will never change my mind!
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A couple things My wife stopped doing after we got married: 1). Stopped working 2 months after the nuptials. 2). Stopped doing house work. 3). Stopped doing laundry. 4). stopped doing shopping for food. 5). Stopped cooking food. 6). Stopped being a sexual partner. 7). Did not stop watching soap operas all day, every day. As a part of my doing a divorce, I did not stop signing the house over to her, signing the newer car over to her, sending her half of my net income for 12 years, paying her health insurance out of my remaining 50% of my net income, and of course paying her attorney bill. In the ensuing 31(+) years I have not gone on a single date of any description with any female.
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I was guided as a young man to never let your spouse or devoted girlfriend go to bed mad not speaking without resolving your argument or misunderstanding as it never fixes itself while we sleep. I understood this as a good exercise to keep that creates a positive outcome. Later in life I learned that this only works when both people have similar goals and upbringings as if you are not equally devoted, accepting of each other then it’s just one person trying to resolve issues while the other pulls away only to be consumed with negativity.
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I've been with my wife for over 20 years. We had a lot of fun, great sex, and both loved working out in the beginning. Now my wife is fat, angry, mean. I still love working out, and my hobbies. We are basically just roomies.
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Recovering #2 female here, not because I didn't want sex, but because it was so excruciatingly painful. I could not relax enough to make it enjoyable in the least, and am JUST NOW learning how to relax, after 39 LONG years of marriage with extremely painful intercourse. We just found your videos and want to thank you for them. You are 100% correct in all the ones I've seen. We are watching them together and are both learning a lot! We decided before we were married that the "d word" would never be used in our house. When we married, we married for life. The bible is important to us, and it allows for divorce for infidelity only. I honestly don't know if we would do that even in that situation. I was 17 and he was 22 when we married and I haven't ever lived on my own. I think if I had, I wouldn't have been so insecure. I am working on my issues now and married life is greater than ever, still going 39 years strong!
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I can answer you question very simply. I've done it, and she is the one who regrets it. I SIMPLY LEFT HER. I didn't cheat on her. I just seen where it was going, and decided, enough was enough, and moved out. I filed for divorce the following day, and never looked back.
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Women are told they will be saved by a knight from a life of toil and work. The man is told he must die to defend, not only her life, but her honor. When she realizes that life is hard work, and she needs to be an equal partner in the toil, she becomes resentful that she won't be pampered for her new married lifestyle for the rest of her life. The man, however, always knew he was only good as long as he worked and died for her. This, I believe, is the root cause....feminism at its finest- Men must live to serve women.
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After 14 years of my wife not wanting physical contact, loosing any and all interest in sex, and growing tired of the constant belittling, i started focusing on myself and stoped trying to make her happy. Now im focused on working out, doing my own thing and being a better man. Im 51 and get hit on/flirted with by women half my age quite frequently, and will decide where my marriage goes after my kids are adults in a few years.
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Wow! I’m recently separated and soon to be divorced after 36 years together and 26 years married and every single one of the 10 items hits true. I was not the perfect husband over the years but definitely endured and persevered all of these behaviours with the hope that things would get better. I was so wrong!
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The story of my marriage which is still in progress for 27 years.
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Women typically trade in justification while men barter with guilt…market place is due for a shift
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Big one for me: all respect ended. Before we were married she was always complimenting me and trusting me. Once we got married, suddenly I couldn't do anything right. I charge my cell phone at the wrong time of day, I take walks in the wrong places, I don't even hold my wallet correctly when I take money out. She doesn't trust me to do any household tasks. Once I fixed a minor plumbing problem and despite the fact that the plumbing was now obviously working, she still insisted on calling a plumber. As the problem was fixed he couldn't figure out what was wrong, so came up with some theory about what could make it fail and then just start working again. She insisted I accept this theory because "he's an expert".
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My wife stopped doing anything once we got married. We have sex 4-6 times a year and I have a 2-4 min timer to “finish” or she’ll get up with a “cramp.” When my daughters are watching a movie, she is just reading, sitting by herself. I cook, I clean, I do laundry, hell I got up throughout the night to feed our daughter while she was on maternity leave and I was working! I do it all and she’s the one who complains about being tired. I have found your channel, and you are my therapist. We’ve been married for 9 years, and have two beautiful girls.
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Men marry with the belief that their wives will not change. They do. Women marry with the belief that they will change their husbands. They don't.
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Thank you Karyn, my long term marriage is over but this helps me to move forward.
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I guess I'm one of the lucky dudes out there. Married my wife in 1996 and still together. We still meet pretty much all ten things on the list. Some of it's dwindled a bit, but having major health issues restricts both of us, so at least there's no blame game from just one side 😂
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Men, to sum up everything she said in this 16 minute video....DON'T GET MARRIED
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No marriage No co-habitation. Date, and that's it. You keep the one power all men have; the ability to leave. She acts the fool, show her the door. It keeps both people honest in the relationship. It's the only way to handle today's women.
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First is respect, she got fat, no sex or i have to do some sort of project of 30 hrs for 5 secs of lazy crap sex, quit dressing nice, no cooking , and caring about what i thought ,no kindness, even shutting off the bathroom light when she is staying up and i have to go to work tomorrow. The last is something I do for the sake of someone resting or trying to sleep. she doesnt give a flying f, cuz she doesnt have to get up. have been 185 lbs for 20 years and keep my weight for the sake of being attractive to her, what a joke. I retire in 16 months, and have really been thinking passport bro. Cuz It doesnt make sense to be miserable for my last 20 years of life. F this Never hated anyone but this person acted like it was impossible to not be in love and start resenting this garbage Money means nothing anymore, but the thought of being with someone who cares is now my life goal
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I'm way too old for this information to help. but you are sooooooooo right!! I wish I had this info years ago!!! And i hope young men are listening to you!!!!!!!!!!! You are the best!!!!
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It drives me nuts when my wife complains how she HAS to get "Item x,y, or z" done, and she doesn't have time to relax so by the end of the day she is just outwardly miserable to the point I don't even want to be around her. I call BS on it every time. It doesn't "HAVE" to get done, she just want to get it done. And I'm usually the one who gets off work and starts cleaning, laundry, or starts dinner prep.
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I'd be more concerned about what a wife could START doing (waste money, adultery, psychosis, crime, drugs, alcoholism, etc)!
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I have rarely ever seen a woman who takes such accountability as the Happy Wife. She is rare, indeed.
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I call it the old switch eroo… My wife told me over 20years ago, laughing in front of her friends, that if I got fat she would leave me. Her and her friends are now rather overweight. I’m ripped and in amazing shape for 50.
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I can hear woman now after each excuse saying " no we don't"
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Great video, all of these happened in my marriage. So sad when you work 65 hrs per week and find betrayal has entered your home. I almost couldn't finish watching due to triggering. BTW, be careful in a church environment, evil still lurks in safe zones.
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If there has to be marriage, then it should only be for a limited time like fixed term. Marriage licenses should have to be renewed every 6-12 months. Both parties discuss whether or not to stay together. If it's no unanimous, then the marriage should be dissolved amicably. No alimony and child support. Child Custody is an automatic 50/50.
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She stopped EVERYTHING. She actually stopped 6 weeks before the marriage but convinced me that it was the pressure of the marriage planning etc. No sex, no fun, no cooking, no cleaning, no laundry, no shopping, no going to ball games, no going dancing, no camping, no hiking, no going to the beach, no skiing. Worse, she would agree to go them then back out when it was time to leave. All she did was ride around in the new car I bought her and eating lunch with her girlfriends. I lasted 2.5 years and paid her $150,000 to get rid of her in current dollars. All I out of that marriage was 1/2 of a dog. I was so miserable, I was never getting married again. It kept me from marrying Ms OK. I did eventually get married again…. When, for the first time in my life… I knew what love was. My 2nd has been everything a marriage is suppose to be.
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With my ex-wife, the moment I was married to her I became the lowest and last priority in her life every thing in our house was a priority and I was last, except I had to pay for it
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Excellent point >>> Before, during and after marriage, men don't change who they are. In contrast, women always change with marriage!
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My hat goes off to you married guys dealing with this… crazy
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When you think about these it’s all crazy that all that stops it’s like a curse
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Once they've gotten everything they need out of you it's over.
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We call them chameleons!
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Number one you forgot being happy seeing you happy because she isn't! Number two "I'm a mom" lady you'd better be a good example for those kids being healthy, if not you're not a good mother at all! Number 3 being nice and kind is freaking free! What the heck that's pathetic! 4 blaming is huge, my ex wife blamed me for the DAMN RAIN not joking she genuinely said was my fault that it rained! 5 if you don't actually want to have sex with men leave us the heck alone you monster! 7 my ex would complain about anything I enjoyed see number 1 me happy her angry! 8 this wasn't a problem for me ️. 9. So many women just trying to be men . But women hate when their man acts feminine rightfully so. 10. Yeah that's the one that hurts... No sex isn't horrible but being forced to live with a women that's not even a friend...
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I've never been married and I have no intention of ever getting married ! Marriage is just illusionary !
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Bait and switch? Lol, my wife weighed 135lbs on our wedding day. She's 190lbs nineteen years later.....
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My experience was that my spouse would quit taking care of herself, gain lots of weight, and stop intimacy and blame any life problems on me
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This is scarily accurate.
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This is incredibly depressing
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A lot of it stems from how much divorce laws favor women. They know they have the power in a marriage. You keep them happy or you deal with losing your kids and half your stuff.
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This video exactly describes my wife even though she's never met her. For me it was great for 30 years and then the rug pull. 10 points out of 10!
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I Guess the Old saying is True , " Love is Blind , but Marriage is an Eye Opener " !
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Never give her a ring nowadays it will end with your complete destruction both financially and mentally
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My wife withdrew sex. Why Because I caught her cheating.
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Wow...many of these are so spot on. But women don't have to get married to stop doing these. I once had a long-term girlfriend who stopping doing lots of these...not surprisingly we broke up soon after.
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30 years of marriage. sex stopped. the respect stopped.
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My wife is my business partner & we spend about 23 hours a day together everyday 7 days a week for the last 26 yrs. I never get tired of being with her. Intersex drive hasn’t decreased. It has increased over the years.
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Husband here. This is so Helpful. It doesn’t mean I don’t have issues, but it’s been really confusing and discombobulating dealing with these things you’re talking about. Not all but some. It’s like she’s completely stuck on a couple Of these and it’s really causing damage. I do not know how to reach her about it but will try sharing these videos.
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Giving me compliments. No more in 30 Yrs. We've discussed it, but there's no willingness at all to recognize and address that cruel fact.
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Glad I didn't fall for the marriage trap. As a Christian man I've seen so many Christian wives disrespect their husbands in all of these ways and more. The culture and Church is being killed by feminism.
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What I got from this is that women are actresses to get men to marry them. She's not that into you, and in many cases she never really was.
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New title: "Ten reasons for men to never get married!"
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I resonate with the Appearance thing. She gets ready (as in, make up, clothes, hair) for the outside world, and rarely, if ever, just for me. Even with that, she never budgets enough time for her to get ready, so whenever we had a place to go (e.g. dinner), we'd be perpetually 15-20 minutes late because it took that long for her to get ready. I would tell her, "hey, it seems you're always late getting ready, why don't you start getting ready earlier?" She'd always have some excuse, but she would never do it. For me, it's just a lack of respect for my time (I work long hours and she's a stay at home mom) and for other people's time (then again, her entire family is sort of like this, where people are late to things or would say they would do X at Y time but start things later; my father always stressed punctuality with me ever since I was a boy and I've always been told that if I'm on time I'm late). Recently, she told me she needed to step out real quick to go to the store and buy something on sale (lol) and come right back because I had an appointment (and I had to watch our son). Twenty minutes later I still see her putting on makeup in the bathroom. I'm like, "I thought you would have left by now to the store." She did not appreciate this comment. For me, I would have just gone with bare minimum and go to the store and get stuff done, if I knew that she were waiting for me to get back to do something. All morning she was up, didn't get ready for me, but she's going to the store for a brief moment to get something, she's getting ready (in the background I'm a little suspicious that this trip wasn't about the store). Then, she would say that whenever I see her as an attractive woman and would flirt with her, she would say that she felt objectified. LOL. I can't win. We are separated now. We are trying to work this out but I don't have a lot of hope for this.
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One very common specific to item 2 is not having long hair any more.
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She says “I’m trying to be nice” .. Question “so it’s really that hard?”. That is my ex to a tee. Her core being was not at all what she presented herself to be. “Wake up to the reality of the woman I’m married to” .. whoa, that hits it spot on.
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MY PET PEEVE is that men get ZERO appreciation for working 8-12hr/day at a mind-crushing, back-breaking job just to see the lion's share of the fruits of that labor got to take care of SOMEONE ELSE. It's just EXPECTED ENTITLEMENT.
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I call it Date and Switch!
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So, basically we were lied to and duped.
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Every week or maybe month or so, there should be a review of where the door is located and how to use it.
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Most honest lady on YT
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This is just covert narcissism...
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Once people realize they no longer have to work for things they get too comfortable and lose respect and gratitude. That is the problem.... not being satisfied with what you already have.
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Married only 5 years and dang all of this word for word is where I'm at.
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My wife lured me in the marriage couldn’t keep her hands off me and 14 years into it the relationship died she has no more desire for me I am devastated
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the real play is to let them honey-pot you...then switch them out for another if your single...first 3 months is the best...its all downhill from there....you only get a 90 day warranty with a new woman. wear it out. LOL
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I showed my wife these videos this past summer. I am so lucky, mine is finally figuring it out. She's amazing! But l have changed a lot for the good & she sees it. Thanks again Karyn, things are getting better & better, thanks for opening my eyes.
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There are 3 rings involved in marriage: engagement ring, wedding ring and suffering.
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Well spoken It’s about time a women spoke the truth !!!
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You've explained these things the best that I've heard them before. Exactly my experience. There is an old joke which said that women marry men hoping that they will change and they don't. And men marry women hoping that they won't change but they do.
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Be serious, work out and spend time alone, she will start treating you better.
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What seems so bizarre to me is that a woman would know exactly what a future Husband would want and purposely marry him knowing that she had no intention of being that person. So she would be alone in a house with a man that has been hoodwinked and is absolutely dejected and miserable and believe that it’s going to be great. I don’t get it. Why not find someone that you are aligned with or just live alone. What am I missing?
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My ex-wife used these excuses to keep control over me. My current wife has some health issues that prevent her from doing some things. The difference is that my current wife still tries, knowing what makes me feel loved respected
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men need to learn to be masculine and stand up for themselves. If you love your wife, It's easy slowly become a pushover as your wife slowly becomes more of an issue. This is because men are trying to keep the peace. But women do not respect the pushover non-masculine man. Only when you don't allow poor treatment or when you stand up and "put her in her place" will she (after some whining and maybe a big argument) will straighten up and become back to a completely different person. they dont know they do this, but they do. just dont let it go on for too long or youll be sorry besides, how is your wife going to feel secure that you can protect her and stand up to a complete stranger if you cant even stand up tp her.
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I’ve been married for 43 years and I have experienced most of this it’s been difficult for me but after listening to your podcast has helped me so much because I thought a lot of this was my fault you have opened my eyes and I feel a whole lot better about myself I shared your podcast with my wife and she stopped acting the way she was because I know her game and told her I would not put up with anymore or else I’m gone she’s been treating me much better god bless you for this information
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The most important thing my wife stopped doing was living here in my house, when I divorced her.
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My wife and I barely ever have sex anymore, she claims she just has no sex drive anymore, but just 2-3 years ago it was like 10 times a week.. Now it's like once a month, and only if I'm pretty insistent.. It's a major ongoing problem.. When we were dating she was on a birth control shot which seemed to make her more into it and adventurous in the bedroom. Now she's off that, and on blood pressure meds which seems to have ruined her labido.. Regardless of the reason though it sucks.. It's very important to me physically and emotionally, I've made that clear, but we have no solution here.. It also makes me very suspicious of her but so far there doesn't seem to be any evidence she's cheating She still cooks and hugs and kisses me alot and we chat lots and she is a good companion, but sex is pretty damn important
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Yes, I have first hand experience. My wife morphed into a vile, narcissistic, arrogant, overbearing pain in the a*s after we got married. We are a household of a taxi driver (me) and a house keeper (her) I just hang on in misery, it’s too expensive to divorce here in Australia. I am 75. 😳😳
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10 things u're welcome 0:40 Stop Having Fun 3:44 Stop take caring of herself 5:49 Stop being Nice 7:27 Stop being Independent 8:43 Stop having Sex 9:41 Stop being affectionate 10:27 Stop sharing your hobbies 11:18 stop being nice to your family and friends 12:07 Stop being wifely and womanly 13:49 Stop being your best friend or loving you .
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Gee this could be published under married women's self help section as : "10 emotionaly abusive behaviors to avoid being a wife." All this time and energy (literally years) spent creating a marriage based on what love and respect? Nope, complete avoidance. And what was the crime did the man committed to be the target for all of this emotional BS.? He asked you to marry him....pathetic
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"Its all on me". I've heard that excuse about 10000 time in my 40 year marriage!!

This video is spot on. Half way through and she's nailed every point so far
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1, 3, 5, 6, 7, 9 and 10. I guess I’m ok. My wife only stopped doing 7 out of 10 within the first year of being married. 🤦🏻
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This is the best relationship platform on You Tube, the very best.
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How is it possible that this channel has only 156 K subs ??? It should be mandatory for every young person thinking of dating, moving in, marriage, therapists, humans ...
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Men, try this. About twice a week, tell your wife you're not going to work because you don't feel like it. See how THAT goes over.
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Most married men have the same story. She was sexual before marriage and after marriage she turned into a cold prude. She complains she is bloated and has a headache. 95% of men say this. My ex wife did the same thing. Men should tell his girlfriend he will sign the contract when they both turn 70 years old. You have an out if she pulls this crap. You don't have an out if your married because of the divorce laws.
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I remember wanting to change my style more cute modest once I had my first child and because certain clothes just didn’t fit me (no I didn’t gain extra weight but my hips did widen naturally) and I shared this with my husband. We didn’t have money financially to buy me new clothes so I can admit I let my appearance go he also didn’t seem to care that I needed new clothes. I take full responsibility of me letting my appearance go. And take full responsibility for his porn/lust addiction cuz I know y’all men will come for me 😊
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This speaks to me. 90% of the the excuses you mentioned has come from my wife exactly as you have described them. The truth is im only still married because I has a daughter and I don't want her to grow up feeling no love which is what would happen if she lived with her mom. Im beyond want to salvage my marriage. Just want some advice on what to do.
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She stopped wearing contacts, high heels, sexy dresses and being sensual in general. She was a sex kitten when we were dating. A few months after I wifed her up, she turned into a roomate who didnt pay rent. She does cook dinner and make my work lunches, but other than that, its like living with my sister. It hurts me to admit this......
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My wife hasn't stop doing any of these things, we've been married for 17 years now.
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Excellent video essay. Q. why do so many women grow up completely mystified of who they are, and//or of what they really want??? ... Even the famous Freud once asked, "What do women want?" Women who get everything they want in life.. like perfect husband, perfect home, perfect children, affluent and healthy are STILL never happy!!! .... Is it a neurological defect?
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I really wish you'd have a version of some of the videos like this without the S-Word. Touching a woman's body is basically a power-up to a man. I've accepted the fact I'm basically another piece of furniture to my wife. It's funny that online they insinuate that incels are single men, when probably most married men are.
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I LOVE your channel! You and a handful of others have opened my eyes to this horrific mindset in some women. It's also cemented my decision to NOT be like that if I ever get married. I literally can't wait to be a loving, selfless, eager, excited, kind, sexy wife. I've already implemented things in my life to prepare and to ingrain that mindset, such as being kind in my words to everyone, especially men (since I see how much they get bashed), taking care of myself, and being real and vulnerable. Above all, I am pursuing Christ and praying that His love shapes my heart and spirit. That alone will assure a strong foundation to a marriage. Men, take hope. There are a few of us out here!
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:50. Your face and demeanor went straight to fun girl. That’s the girl your husband remembers
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Cant imagine sending to all wpmen i know family or friends of friends.😮
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Mine fits into #2, but my wife stopped taking showers on a normal basis.. instead, she would take a shower once every three weeks.
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All of these points could definitely apply, but it's funny that you mention the fun! I just came to the realization the other day that my wife doesn't like to have fun anymore. Friends try to make plans with us and she doesn't want to do anything. And if we do go out she's concerned about getting home early. Not about having a good time but what time will we be home! I just don't understand not wanting to have fun anymore! What does that stem from? Why would you not want to have a good time? Anyways, good luck to all you fellas out there watching this video, we all need it
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My ex wife thought she was over worked because she had to vacum and do laundry once a week. Also she couldnt be bothered with putting anything away behind her self, then whine that she had to clean the house up.
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Just watch this video, fellas. 😂😂😂
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Oral sex is immediately halted when married.
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I just wish that she would stop talking.
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Oh yes, my wife to me, was my very best friend. She left me after 35 years of marriage. When she left, we were both 60 years old.
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"It's not my love language" is the quickest way for me to end a relationship.

Y'know, this channel is a good resource for married women and and women seeking marriage. I'm a man and have been divorced for 13 years. What I find is that the topics and presentation dredge up old feelings about my ex and our marriage. Hats off to the female viewers here who seek to understand what they might be doing or what they can avoid.
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Such hard pills to swallow, I still get angry watching, but like you say, if that’s the case then I know what you’re saying is true and that I’m problem. Struggling to get out of camp victim. I appreciated this list it’s a good jumping board to change things that are “easier” and then keep working on the harder ones. Thank you for your hard truths!
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I'm wondering how marriage is still legal, seriously?
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Who in their right mind gets married to drama. Unrealistic expectations__
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During 57 years she has been hot and cold but if she wants something she may have a moment. During all of our years anything she asked for I gave her from jewelry to clothes, a nice home and a new vehicle every few years. The older we get the worse times are. She was a stalker when I first met each other. I finically gave in but have regrets about it. I have always treated her fantastic. The reason for staying is because I believe in family and wanted our children to have great parents, my mother left when I was really young. I could go on but it will not change anything.
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I'm curious if there's an evolutionary cause to this change in behavior or is it all society's doing? I was married ONCE and will never do that again. I prefer being free and happy.
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Dear my husband, I need money. Give me some money. Oh dear wife, not today. I have a headache today.
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Tbh this sounds like a relationship with s covert narcissist and if thats the case there are alot of covert narcissist running rampant
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I've been married for 15 years, and I try, every day, to be a better wife than the previous day. I'm kind, sexual, in shape and affectionate. I'm listening to see if there's anything I can improve on. I can definitely try to bring more fun. Life gets hard sometimes and it's hard to keep lighthearted and fun. But i will. Ty for the suggestion. We're not all uncaring witches lol
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This is so depressing. I know far too many men that complain about this very thing. I had a twenty five year relationship with a woman without getting married because I didn't want this to happen. I know too many men who have said the fun stopped when they got married. Both of them stopped trying. .
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Hey Karyn. Another great video. I think I have commented once before. Again, I'm 61, in a 37 year marriage. I've experienced all you cover here. More recently, things have gotten better since I started following you
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Best solution = don’t get married No need to make it official. You can go through a ‘wedding’, just don’t put it in writing. Been married for 14 years and divorced. There’s not a single thing in marriage I can think of that would have been a benefit to me. As soon as women think they’re safe they stop putting in effort and become insufferable witches. I’ve been in a loving relationship for a while now and I sometimes find myself sitting by myself and wonder how much better my life has gotten.
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My wife hates being touched, has no desire for sex she says it’s a chore and excuse is historectomy and not important to her.
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You get to a point where initiating at all seems like a dream. It's VERY difficult after years of rejection.

I agree with you but when you have small children it's not easy my best friend gave birth 5 months ago and honestly her daughter cries with colic and she is breastfeeding. She doesn't have any of her family around to help. There is no date night for them I tried to help whenever I could. On the other hand, he goes out with his friends play football. How can she have activities knowing she is breastfeeding it's not easy.
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1:09 she’s at a job, working for another man, because your paycheck doesn’t cover the expenses of deciding to create a family. She is also then expected to come home, and be a full time homemaker and mother (another full time job). It’s mostly resentment for the aforementioned reasons. You’re not entitled to be a husband and father - if you’re encountering changes in the dynamics of your relationship, it’s because you expect your partner to be too many things…best friend, therapist, caretaker, cook, homemaker, lover, muse, trophy, etc.
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Such a sad list.
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She definitely became the fun police. Now she just wants to come home from work, smoke weed, and complain. I’m the one that cooks dinner and tries to keep the house up after my 8hr work day. It is rare that I have 30 min to do what I want to do.
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You have described my wife to a T. Years ago, after having kids, some amount of time passed where I noticed she didn’t reach out to hold my hand anymore, so I asked her about it. She lashed out angrily and put the onus on me saying if I wanted to hold hands up was up to me to reach out. It’s only gotten worse since then.

Q: What is the difference between a job and a wife? A: After 6 weeks, the job still sucks!😂
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😊 i have four exwives, they all changed, why would anyone think that the fifth would be any different? you think you can 'pick better' and its not going to happen, good luck with that
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In the simplest form, I’ve seen many women cut off their beautiful hair weeks after getting married (too much effort to keep the hair he loved so much) Bait and switch…
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The worst part about this treatment is that they have a way of making it seem like it's your fault--it's like they have training in military PsyOps. Also, as an older man I've noticed that this gets worse and worse over time until, by age 60, they become impossible to live with. To an older woman there are two ways to live life--their way and the wrong way.
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Just described 19 years of my 23 year marriage.

God bless all who Honor the marrige bed. Let NO thing or Anyone come between u and your help mate🙏🙏🙏🙏 Amen🥰😎
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Imagine going to arestaurant and asking 4 the best dish. The service staff says: "we have a dish that is potentialy the best there is...by far" Customer: "why potentialy"? Staff: "well, If you survive it". Customer: "WHAT????" STAFF: "Dont worry, only bit more than 50% (divorce stat) of ppl get food poisoning and only a few die (suicides rate after divorce-grape)" Also, wh3n the dish is prepaired you just need to follow these 10 steps (equivivalently difficult to understand the way these 10 bait and switch tactis are). Good luck with the dish (analogy 4 marrige) guys...
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The fact is that you weren't her first choice. She just did enough to trap you into marriage and kept doing just enough to keep you happy so she could have one or two kids. Knowing the whole time that she can divorce you and pursue the kind of man she's really attracted to without remorse or guilt. We know this to be true because millions of us men are living it.
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One of my first wife's common groans... " If I can't go to Florida twice a year and swim in the ocean then life isn't worth living!"

First year-- massive depression and completely shut me out.. fought through all that fast forward 20 yrs later and 20 yrs of WTFs still waiting for her to show up.

Mine didn't/doesn't respect me. For some reason, she thinks I'm responsible for her level of happiness or boredom. She doesn't really care if I'm sick or injured, just expects me to do everything the same anyways. Still has no clue as to who I am after 30 years together.
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Once the humor leaves a relationship it's over. We all have the same fears and shortcomings because we are all human, and it's actually pretty funny until it isn't
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I am 55, and never have been married, or been in a relationship , looking back, it may have been the best decision I could have made. Because of the way we deal with relationships today, and how technology has altered our mindset, people are not the same. Yes women and men feel more empowered today, but they are less educated, less patient, more demanding. People are susceptible to drama in their lives and other people's lives, posting their problems on social media, causing unnecessary complications and uncomfortable situations. There is a special kind of simplicity that existed 30/40 years ago that does not exist today. I am also bogged down helping poor families, with either bad mothers or bad fathers, and it is so demanding it makes the whole relationship dynamic very undesirable. Yes those single moms want to love me, but it's best I stay away. Right now, I'm just tired of helping and want some peace.
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Never got married, but usually takes 2 years for this to happen.
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seems like independent today has something to go to bar without a husband of boyfriend
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The civil courts side with women, that is real power.
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Dude, this shit sounds miserable. My wife hasn’t done any of that like four years after we got married no two years after we got married we bought a Harley and then two years after that we bought another Harley and then we sold our first Harley to buy another Harley and we’re having a kick ass time man I’m sorry for the other guys that aren’t butI guess that’s how it goes
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Find a woman that doesn't think life is a burden..life is a gift..long life is a blessing
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The cowboys had it right. Ride the range alone... when lonely, ride into town for the cure, then ride back out to the range. The alternative is to become a permanent source of income for lawyers.
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14:03 she speaks with words that are sweet but as sharp and as dangerous as a double-edged sword. That is what was the worst my experience.
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Well ... most of those things had happened to me but... not after getting married but after she got pregnant. We lived together for 2 years before getting married and things were great, yes we had quarrels and fights rarely but most couples do. When we got married things did not change much... our relations improved even slightly... we vacationed together, bought our house, new car to be a family car. Things went to shit when she got pregnant 4 years after the wedding... I did not know what hit me... My dad and my dudes were saying that women go apeshit because of the hormones and worry about the baby being OK and you have to tough it out... I tried ...but after my daughter was born things recover a little but never fully our marriage went from full A to maybe C+... it was bearable...but with our son born 4 years later it went straight to HELL. I love my kids to death .. and just to have them I would have done it all over again... When my son was born and it was decided that there won't be more... she stopped having sex with me... first it was classic ... mentally and emotionally empty... then was just none at all.
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An excuse for #2 is also “you should love me for me, however I look” Another excuse for #5 “I need [t,u,v,w,x,y,z] to be in the mood (turns transactional, and it’s never actually enough)” Also #5 “I need a man to take charge” and then turns you down 95% of the time, and is so unethusiastic the other 5% that the man doesn’t want it because he feels like he’s using her and feels disgusting because she has no drive to be intimate with him
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This happened in my marriage. And knowing this helps me know it wasn't me since I was running in circles and going insane trying to make this person happy. Or the woman I fell in love with. But, also it will always be the same and given up on dating or long term dating. I'm 39. The desire to mate is dwindling and remembering how every aspect of myself will be shamed and destroyed day by day.
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Absolutely zero respect !
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"If you start to clean and do household work at monday, you will get your saturday huzzle"

Wtf this is exactly what I'm dealing with and I can only laugh 😂😂😂😂

Truth in every word. I have been married 2x, my entire adult life. I will single permanently, at the very first opportunity.
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Married 39 years, my wife and I have been through all 10 of these escuses. It started within about 6 months of getting married and I blamed myself and or felt she wanted to be with someone else. She would dress up for work and at work was her normal bubbly friendly flirty self and at home total opposite. Many heart to heart conversations, excuses, deflected onto me and sometimes some change or improvement for a few weeks or a month and then right back to the same. I love her completely and she loves me, but all of these things were a huge detriment to our marriage and to both of our happiness.

My friend said years ago once he got married "Once you say i do you dont" refering to sex stopping at marriage
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Are you saying women are passive-aggressive? Whaaaaaaaaaaat?
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At the 320 Mark Utah's up on something so big. And it was about control. I have seen that with a lot of women where they will sabotage even a good thing because they feel that they are not in control. That was mind-blowing for me in that moment with what you just said and tracing it back you could clearly see and even in sometimes women slip up and say it "I just feel like I have no control" and men usually accept what it is that they can't control but focus on things that they can.

I love my husband but videos like this are very valuable to remind myself of how bad things could get if I let myself become bitter, resentful, etc. Thank you.
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I got money (not alot but enough how i spend it), my own business and shittload of free time - my life goal. Was feeling crappy for not having anyone. Not so much after seeing this, and reading the comments. Thanks!
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Someone gave me some advice saying to live my life doing what brought me joy in the hopes that I could meet someone with similar interests so we could bring each other joy. Before marriage, living in a College town we went to Football and Basketball games and to the nearby lake for fishing or hiking. Very soon after we married she announced that she never liked College sports or the outdoors and only wanted sit at home and watch old movies on TV or go out to eat and go shopping. She said someone advised her to do the things her boyfriend enjoyed until she landed her husband and then it would he his (my) job to attend to her needs and wishes.

There is a blues song called 'Ain't it strange how everything change, once that wedding ring goes on'. I've been married twice and both petered out of sex about the 5 year mark

I'm a lifelong bachelor, age 67. I love listening to these marriage videos -- gives me an incredible sense of relief. Modern marriage seems to be utter degradation for men. I checked out at age 40 -- gave up completely on dating and women. Mind you, I don't hate women, I just disregard them. They're simply background noise in my peaceful bachelor life.

Nothing harder than the Bussom of the a woman who does not love u.

Real Talk... It sounds like the wedding high wears off after the ceremony. The ultimate bait and switch.

My wife will NEVER stop cleaning and yells at me when I do stop. Helped her over 8 hours last Saturday. Stopped at 7 pm to play a video game. Got yelled at because she had to do Everything. Lol
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My partner’s reason for not having sex was that she wasn’t sure how her body would react.
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Mine stopped agreeing and respecting my decisions and wants to turn everything I do into an argument.

My wife stop dancing n going to bed late
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My wife has anxiety when I plan anything.

Punative punishment replaced ever being in a good mood or being nice. Things I did "wrong' or failed to do had to have consequences of hostility toward me every single day without even a break once in a while. Never any peace.

What percent of wives are pure for their grooms on their wedding night?
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Been married 32 yrs now , 3 children( all adults now and several houses later). I think the biggest thing is when you add children and always money issues. Didnt have that back in the 'fun' times, and being younger, less debt and more carefree and sex all the time. You have to adapt. My wife and I still have figured a way, still have good sex(just not as often), still have a good time, just alot less spontaneous. Have to work at it. Yesterday we went driving in the Jeep with the top down, listen to music, just drive and look at stuff and chat. Have to change what you think is 'fun'. I'm still going to try and get make a move later ,but we may both end up too tired, Age happens.

They are takers, like a coal mining company. They are there to take.
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Trademark "Camp victim" is 💯💯💯

What is the date on a wedding ring? It's the "Best before" date.
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Your insight is very accurate.. sad to hear you say "sex can make me feel uncomfortable if my roll (fat) can be seen" knowing you choose to be overweight, know it makes you feel bad about yourself and knowing you are selecting junk food over pleasing your husband visually. Sad. You should face this before your next video.
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Anybody about to get married should watch this
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Stopped giving a simple kiss at the door when returning from work at the end of the day.

I have literally been a lodger in our house since our 2 child came along 3o years and 15 days ago. I’d have more human contact and affirmation in prison. Your video describes my life perfectly. To late for me to do anything about it now.

She says I have changed and she is not my friend but a roommate
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I'm absolutely gutted
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Her biggest excuse is, "I am tired". Even after she had 12 hours of sleep. That is my other frustration.... If we have to get up early to do stuff, it just never happens cuz she WON'T get up early on weekends.

The saying in my family is once they say I do they don't anymore

After 20 years of marriage, my wife took off to experience other men and left me with the kids to raise them by myself. One thing she did was smoke cigarettes just because she knew I did not like it. I was a fitness. And martial art person. Says she knew smoking with just bother me.. one of her many…
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It is the endless disrespect and my wife terminating my marriage of 25 years and destroying my family and destroying my retirement by stealing $695k cash from me when I reached 65 years of age, and her spending over $300k after tax cash on lawyers when simply filling out the forms would have been adequate.
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Sometimes it's not what she doesn't do but also what she starts doing after marriage such as arguing all the time.

I'm in my 50's and got married over five years ago and I don't do any of this!

Casanova - "Weddings are the funerals of love."

It’s called “the introductory offer” just to land the man!

The girl I married was not the girl I dated. This occurred at lightning speed after I signed the contract. Fixed it! Never again and couldn't be happier ever since.

Sometimes one excuse leads to the other. I can't spontaneously go do the fun thing right now. I would have to change my clothes take a shower get my makeup on, and by the time I do all that it's too late. And besides, if we went and had fun and I wouldn't have the excuse of griping because we never have any fun anymore.
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Agreed. All idealist young men out there, they really need to take this to heart.

Respect and Appreciation are important in a relationship. My parents are still married after 68 years.

All this remains true for unmarried women engaged in long term relationships, often after kids become part of the household.
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Boy, does this hit home. I could tell stories about every point. I'm not perfect, but I've never stopped trying in my marriage. Her enthusiasm comes and goes.

I think a priest should read this to a couple instead of wedding vows.
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Wife never did those things before getting married either.

Isn’t bait and switch implied when exchanging vows?
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2 3 4 5 have happened here. Wow not great to realize it.

I planned the vacations. Just before I committed, my wife changed her mind and objectives. I stopped and planned my own.
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Your ability to explain women is amazing, i have come to the same conclusions, 70 years married 35 years then walked out on my second relation ship since. This is also why women should not be in politics they have pushed the woke agenda

When a partner purposely does things to make the other miserable (withholding sex,being emotionally distant, being disrespectful, general neglect , abuse, etc.), this is called “constructive abandonment”. It’s a clear indicator to the partner that you couldn’t care less about them or the marriage. It’s a cowardly and dishonest tactic to force the other person out of relationship and allows the abandoner to claim that THEY were abandoned.

I am reassured to know that this is not in my head. Why is it the woman who becomes the miserable nasty person after marriage many times? I know that if o would try to show this video to my wife, she would just get defensive because the truth hurts
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The marriage ceremony is theatre. The wedding reception is indulgence. In between, making it legal and pretense no longer necessary, is the signing of the register. The woman who puts the pen down isn't the one who picked it up. Congratulations! I pronounce you Husband and Stranger.
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you're describing my life during my marriage. wow
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My late wife actually told me and a counselor that she has a girlfriend personality and then when she got married she couldn't be the girlfriend she had to be the wife and they are separate personality's that is why she drastically changed

It’s mind blowing when you’re saying they go down then after I neva liked it SMFH
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Yes, #5 I get all of the friggin' excuses. They're all like a-holes. Everybody has one.

Stop sugar coating everything, she pulls the bait & switch because SHE WON!! Duhhhh. Once the man marries her, he lost, becomes a conquered mountain AND THATS BORING!
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She stopped talking to me. Yet on the phone 24/7 talking with whoever else. Her collection of friends became her whole focus and has been for 33 years. Lately she will not say even "good morning" or respond about anything at all.

Why would anyone want to be around such misery?

Some more than others, but yes, every single one of these.
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I do wish I had a loving woman in my life, but damn I’m glad I’m no longer burdened by what has been (unhappy ex wife). Her 2nd marriage only lasted 4 years.
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I hope it doesn't depend on the type of men and culture. Some culture, he will surprise her with a young new wife from the village ; some culture don't tolerate such etc
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The simplest solution to all of this is don't get married in the 1st place. Don't even live together.
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I wish my wife would watch this.
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I've watched a lot of these videos. So the bottom to all of it is: don't get married. Why would anyone get married?
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This is the most comprehensive list of reasons to never get married that I have ever seen. Women are basically unhappiness generators!

A wife is a job title like a doctor or a lawyer. Marriage is a job contract. A woman needs to be raised by her mother to be a wife from childhood. If she is not raised as such, she is not qualified for marriage. A woman does not transform into a wife through marriage any more so then a man transforms into a doctor by getting a job at a hospital.
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💯spot on!! Putting that bloody ring on her finger was the worse day’s work I ever did ! Moan moan moan !! 😤

You're so good & so right Karyn ! You know you're stuff.

This is a great channel. I found a wonderful man and I hope we can get married. Im going to work really, really hard at making him the happiest men alive.
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I enjoy listening to your channel but it reinforces my decision to continue to belong to B.A., Bachelors Anonymous!!
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Marriage plus 6 years here. You exactly described my situation.

I tried to anticipate your first point, and was surprised by “She stops having fun”. But, then I remembered that that was exactly what my wife did. When were dating “fun” always came easily, but after marriage she kept raising the bar for “fun”, demanding ever more expense and effort from myself.

When we were dating I invited her to sit down with me and watch a 30 minute podcast political podcast every Friday afternoon which was a recap of the week's events. She acted very interested before we were married conceded that she has no interest in it. When I challenged her about this she said she only acted interested because we were dating
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All the reasons for not having fun...🎯 So True. My wife definitely has control issues.

I don't even care about sex. I want promises fulfilled, the lying and weaselly ways stopped, the forgetting and the stupidity to end.

Yeah, no need to get into it, trying to put that mess behind me.

This is unfortunately very accurate. There are some redeeming aspects of marriage that honestly and stubbornly, I still hold on to. Never the less marriage is a gigantic double edge sword for sure.
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8:46 I used to say "There are two kinds of people. People who get headaches, and those who give them. I never have a headache" :P

I got a feeling that there is a deeper truth of understanding to this and that there is a way to solve this lovingly. And IO don't think it'Sm only womens or only mens fault here

I learned that a person needs to be 100% resposible for their own needs spiritual, emotional and economic. If they do this and they end up in a relationship that doesnt work, they can leave because they would have taken the proper steps to protect their own security and cannot be emotionally blackmailed inside of a relationship with anyone, they can just leave and rebuild quickly.
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Never been married. Was more into her brother anyway. He was definitely all around more fun.

Reminder: Marriage is a vow in giving up the rights to one's body and gaining the rights to spouse's body. Refusing to have intercourse without grave reason means breaking vows and is akin to infidelity.
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All these excuses revolve around women purposely taking on too much. With my exes it was her overbearing coddling and over micromanaging of the kids and undermining me when it comes to discipline and parenting. Always in her phone on social media and giving into to her materialistic and hypergamous nature and always has to have the next new shiny thing. The list goes on and on.
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Nobody said it was easy.blended families are nearly impossible. If you make that work, you deserve sainthood. I try to make sure we both get what we want.i try to listen.i always stand up for myself, when I know I'm right.

lots of men with their heads screwed on right, you are MR RIGHT just MR RIGHT NOW

I've read 3-Kids is the Charm!!👩‍👧‍👦..1-kid she still has time to listen to other single-women, 2-kids its still easy to divorce claiming neglect....3-kids she is too damn busy and dug her own grave!! 🤔🤯...3 kids she's committed now!!! That's their magic number.

Number 5 is the most commonly occurring?!

I feel sorry for my wife. She lives in camp victim and tries to blame me for everything. I've heard and seen everything you described. But I get the picture now and I am keeping a distance and building my own life.

I was married, wife did 9 of 10 things, got divorced, got in a new ltr and dont want to get married again because its already 7 of 10 again. Idk what it is, but I presume it's moving together that flips the switch.

Start a relationship with someone who is a friend for at least 2 years , pay attention to what makes them happy and how they both speak to and about people and their values , do they have a life or expect other people to make them happy , do they have healthy ambition how often do they complain, and how they manage their finances. It is easy to start a relationship and be blind to serious red flags marriage is not a decision to be taken lightly, also get a prenup... No matter how nice adorable ect never marry in community of property, its not an issue if trust and anyone want to convince you otherwise is a red flag , get a will to protect your spouse and kids in case of early death but prenup for marriage with an infidelity clause.

You had me when you revealed that you’re from the South. 😊

So basically my marriage has been a 20 plus year gaslighting facade

Great commentary and podcast! I personally experienced some of these actions, which led to my divorce!
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Fun is a big one!!! when we got married she became an ADULT!! and I am still a child (Im 65) that's fun.

Gosh, this is depressing. My wife stopped doing all 10. But not when we got married but two years after when our kids came along 😢

The behaviors described here are sad enough, but there is something even sadder: men who refuse to listen and who still rush into a bad marriage because they consider themselves "hopeless romantics" and hope they've found “a good one” (aka a unicorn).

I'm so glad that I'm not the only one that saw those things for what they were.. Thank God I'm outta that situation now

Yet sooo many women deny all this...just evil wicked twisted.

I've been married 46 years. It has never been like this for me. I guess I was lucky!

Describing my wife, except I’m the one who does everything.

You have nailed it been married three times all gone the same way 😔😭😢

Truer words were never spoken! Even on the flip side of the coin I have done some of those very things myself...

I would argue that men don't want a party girl wife - that implies things beyond having fun.

Haven't even gotten married yet and she has stopped doing everything. No sex in over a year, no help around the house can barely get dressed in the morningwithout my "help". She's barely willing to go to work but she jumps on any opportunity to spend money

I need physical intimacy. And absolutely everything you listed is a reality for me. Has been. We talked about staying together for the children to have a stable home. Because it is good for them. Yes the adults suffer. But this is an example of commitment. I suffer for the children to benefit. Because if I had asked God for confirmation about her. He would have told me. Now I pray and I need a woman. I need physical love. I need a woman how and where do I find a woman to be with me for this while I provide a stable home for my children.

All the above before my divorce!

women have changed the rules for a thousand years ! now that we are married the rules are this way .
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Mine never really even got into my hobbies and interests.. asked about but never tried to get into them like I did hers.. she swears I make it all about me but it’s all about her lol..

#3. To paraphrase book from Jen Kirkman “we can barely take care of ourselves!” (Her book “I can barely take care of myself”) (as men we can struggle just to keep the lights on)

THANK YOU for reinforcing for ME, how lucky I am! I watched this video and walked jnto the other room to hug and kiss my wife and thank her for being awesome (she was really taken aback). I experienced everything you described in my first marriage and just got lucky the second time around. Especially important that a wife has interests/hobbies and still is up for almost anything 😊

This is so accurate, love your content

Well my granny would b up 4a.m breakfast on table hit the field after cleaning kitchen helping the old man and break off early fix lunch clean go bk to work same deal for supper maternity leave was maybe a week then bk at it had 7 kids got them lined out and was at church every time the door was open old man held his part to these 2 grew or made everything they needed only went to town for church farmers market so i don't know anybody living like that anymore and they where still working the farm past 70s everybody's got their attention and priorities wrong tryin to b like all these idiots on tv gonna end up just like them shows cancelled or a rerun everybody's already seen but hey u had a good run for 10 years about 30 years ago was it worth it get straight with the Lord and wait for him to send you the one and don't ever let either of them go and i believe you'll be alot happier when its done

My first wife did this. My second wife just got better after marriage

I'm tired ...haha she nailed this immediately

32 years…. My wife never stopped any of those.

This would be great for single women and men to watch before they get married.

The lack of sex was the first thing I noticed. I'm in my mid 30s and so is she. I can take the laziness and stuff like that but lack of sex to where it's once a month or rarer... yea I'm out. Where going to separate any day now and we both know it.

Honestly this video makes me appreciate my ex-wife even more. She didn't stop any of these until a couple of months before the end of our marriage. And then it was because our son passed away and we both ended up in a pretty dark place that we couldn't help each other out of, because we were in the same place. There are some good, genuine women out there that don't have a secret agenda. In my experience (as an autistic man) it's best to date autistic women. They tend to be more genuine then alistic women.

I asked my ex on a date every week we were together. You can not imagine the vile, disrespectful, words and actions that followed.

I always thought that was just a myth. My ex changed so much after about two months after the wedding that i didnt know who she was anymore. I tried to be patient with her for several years but we finally split. Now years later she wants to try and reconcile and i just laugh at her and she gets mad at me because she doesnt get whats so funny! No way!

I WATCH THESE videos even though I have now been married to a (Proverbs) 31:10 for 40 years because I still have issues from the first marriage. She pretty much destroyed my kids. I put up with it for 10 years because I knew the court would give her custody. It happened anyway. Most of this stuff I knew, but I had no confirmation. I watch these videos give me confirmation that, yes, I was right all along.
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Yah switch turned off at years 3 for sure years 4

DON'T take a CHANCE GUYS! Just stay SINGLE and leave them to their cats, wine, and Prozac!
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I lucked out, no doubt about it I really lucked out.
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Sad but true
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I question if there is any going back. My experience is that after marriage, women become what they are. But knowing that a man would never marry what they actually are, so they have a pre-marriage persona. Another thing about the wife claiming that he never plans anything. After the 50th time of "No, I don't want to do that - you just give up. Then it is "He never wants to do anything with me. So the issue is if this is what you want - marry. If you don't think that is the life you want, stay single. Because they will not change.
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Okay, I was interest in what you had to say, but as a mom to a toddler who is trying to find energy/time to do all the haur/make/clothes/workout things.... I am DEFINITELY not being frumpy to push my husband away! That is some silly psychologizing right there! Not saying it never happens, but as an umbrella explanation it's literally insane. I've been working very hard to reestablish intimacy and affection after the postpartum and infancy whirlwind, and strongly desire that. Guilting women - who may very well be affection hungry into thinking the only reason they aren't dolling themselves up (which we all agree they should do) is because they're rejecting their husbands... when in reality they just haven't had a moments break in days, is gaslighting.
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Just stumbled on this video. It's scary how accurate this thing is for me. This video just nailed a perfect bullseye. Yeah,...this video is depressing.

People do change, for better or ill. To expect two people to remain the same over time, seems unrealistic. Perhaps, short-term marriages could be an alternative, subject to renewal if both parties agree. If not, then dissolution based upon prior agreement standards.

everyone has a hand for their partner, there really is not excuse not to offer a hand for your partner.
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Honesty is such a lonely word Everyone is so untrue Honesty is hardly ever heard And mostly what I need from you "Billy Joel".
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You hit the nail on the head with this video……
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My ex left 20 years ago. The bad habit of her falling asleep putting the baby to bed and neglecting the marriage lead to many issues, I spent 5 birthdays alone with this BS. Then when it was her birthday or Valentine day she would expect the royal treatment, I gave for a few years then lost interest. She finally found a coworker who was just as miserable as her so they ran off together. Our one daughter was shared custody at first but once she hit high school she stayed with dad out of choice, mom was to negative for her too. Mom moved 1200 miles east 5 years ago so our daughter only sees her once a year. She went there last Christmas and said mom was still negative on life. Life has been interesting since mom left, sometimes lonely but other times exciting meeting new women.

Every single one will stop having a sexual relationship with you. All 3 of mine stopped. The first decided she never wanted kids, amd she never did. Second one suffered from post partum depression after son #2 and she decided she never wanted to have sex again. Third one claimed she loved sex, wanted kids etc etc. 4 months after we were married she had an ectopic pregnancy which is when I found out she lied. She said oh yea, I still like sex. Within 2 years, no longer "interested". They just lie

Why as a single man would I want to get married?
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Wait until menopause hits. Woof!

My wife didn't stop having fun, she's still gotta out with her girls and has fun with them. She stopped having fun with me.
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So, I live the bdsm lifestyle. Its how I met my wife. I told her before we got married that I didnt want to live the vanilla lifestyle. She agreed. Well used to say that our relationship, because of the bdsm, was stronger than vanilla relationships. Well, this will be 14 years of marriage this year, and at 12 or 13 years, she said she only agreed and said that because she hoped id just grow out of the lifestyle and grow up.

I just want to thank you. God bless you and your family

All of this behavior is a moral hazard of biased divorce laws. If there was no alimony, child support, property division as we have it now, then the con would stop.

Honestly - your video is incredibly depressing. And at the same time it is incredibly precise. I have felt that my wife has all the boxes ticked and achieved after wedding and two kids so she could "stop pretending/trying." I used to be so insecure, tried so hard to make myself good enough, listen enough and be there for her - and nothing worked for years, it was never enough. Today I left couples therapy (I forced on us as a last resort) quite in peace with "this is not going to work out". And here comes your video. Thank you for it and may it help a lot of couples out there.

My ex-wife stopped working out. Went from 160 to 285 lb.

Letting themselves go and putting on 50+lbs is the biggest disrespect to me ... 😢😢😢

Your honesty and accountability gets you a thumbs up. I hope it also gets you a loving marriage.❤

Literally all of these were the explanations my ex wife gave me the week before I moved out and we got separated.

I kept thinking during my divorce… I married her wanting her to never change. She did change. A lot. She married me hoping I would change. I didn’t. I didn’t get angry at her as she changed. She did get angry at me because I didn’t change.
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They just closed their business case and all behaviors before was the sales pitch

Have heard men say their wives completely shut down the bedroom fun after the wedding, like what am I protecting and providing for if I'm not getting any?

This channel should be mandatory course for women before marriage and something they have to review again every few years to keep their marriage license valid. 😂

Never die in war for someone who wants equality. Let them go fight for equality instead

Nahhh.. you'll still never know who she REALLY is until you are sitting in divorce court.😉👌🏻
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Well, now i have 10 reasons to not get married . I see all my friends go through this in their marriages . Now I'm enjoying Europe alone . I got called all kinds of names because i didn't have children . After going to my high school reunion i so glad I'm single . I love my freedom to roam the world .

Yes so for me I told my wife i have a foot fetish and she told me she's cool with it but then we get married she doesn't like that before we got together I said it was a deal breaker now I'm trapped in marriage and she may say I've stopped being as romantic and getting flowers and taking her out but they stuff gets expensive but I didn't change what we initially agreed on

Divorced guy, but stopped respecting my peace and the availability of alone time that I needed from time to time.

Wow, my ex wife did atleast 8 of these things and my current GF does most of them as well. It’s very saddening tbh. What do we do as men to bring it back? I’d rather not jump back on the dating carousel at this point in life.

number 10, your not the same person...my ex started using this one once i paid the mortgage

5.07 “we make ourselves unattractive to to push our husbands away se we don’t have to have sex”. Took me 25 years to understand this happened.

Karen, you have gone platinum with this one. The bait-and-switch wives are high in this day and time. Poison is in the matrimonial of marriage.
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I believe for many women they end up seeing the man as their dad. Someone who fixes all of the problems, pays, is the rock. The 'rock' is just a stoic, static entity that requires no love or affection.
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Humbly taking notes so that I can bring the best version of myself to my future marriage.

That was the first sign that my ex-wife was stepping out on me. After we got married she stopped carrying about her appearance. I kept taking care of my appearance. Then the allegations that I was cheating started.

Wow… welp, I’m never getting married…

Bottom line is, it's all about them. They do whats needed, to control there options to WHAT THEY WANT, AND YOUR NOT PART OF IT ! Thats there daily work in progress till you as a man give up.
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My Bride laughed at me when I said absolutely definitely 100% To the question 'Do you take xxxx for your lawful wedded wife'

these are deep betrayals

Boy, doesn't this list sound familiar. I wised up and now I don't know were she is....

My wife has stopped hanging out with me. It is frustrating cuz she also feels more entitled to complain about the things that need to get done EVERY day than she used to. But, these are the things that require BOTH of us to be present to do. 2 days ago, she informed me she would be going to a funeral for an obscure friend she knew 15 years ago. After she left, I said, "I will find other accommodations for the night", and I got a hotel room. It ACTUALLY seemed effective. Yesterday, we worked together on cleaning and cooking. AND, we went shopping together.

married to a Aussie woman for 20 yrs and kaboom have been married to a thai lady for 14 years man ah man if only men knew what its like , Im a lucky man

Why in the hell would any man agree to legal marriage?
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When I was dating my now wife, I had casual conversations with a pathologist at work who was very intelligent, but had the ego to match. He stated that I was just a “sperm donor”….which pissed me off at the time. Now I see that he was actually very intelligent….and very correct. 😢

My ex wouldn’t scratch my back because it would damage her nails

38 years and she has done all of these, how can I get her signed up to come to your school

This one hit home hard.

This is so crazy how accurate this is. It's nice hearing a female admit all of this.

you are on the money!

Oh, i wish,.. if only these were the problems we had. Wify turned into a control monster. She would literally take out a wall with the spllitting maul in our new home to try to anger me and get a reaction out of me if I didn''t join in a "fight". Through the years, destroyed the whole house. And there was nothing you could do. She was just so beautiful and dainty and whimpering. And all would say, of course, she's unhappy, look at the condition of your home... they just couldn't put it together....

I did not get what was advertised..
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Why would you play nurse to an adult..!?

So true....all of these....why I will never marry again.....too much gaslightiing....short of God himself telling me to do ao, it will never happen....

A man marries a woman thinking she will never change, and she aways does . A woman marries a man thinking he will change and he never does
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My wife of 43 years was my best friend when we married and stayed that way. I lost her to cancer after the 43 years. The longer we were married the more fun we had. Three kids she still has time to fix herself. Sex was as good and as often as when we married. She was as nice and snuggled all the years we were married. All I will say is if your wife did what is in this video is you married the wrong person. The young lady(18) I (20) married was still in high school but not pregnant. Yes I was lucky to find the right lady early.

So sad, but so true. I never made the mistake of getting married to a woman who did these things, but saw this happen to SO many of my friends and family.

I've stayed single since my divorce 16 years ago. Rent only. Life is wonderful

Glad I never got married. Being alone can have painful moments but it sounds like being married had a lot more.

I'm a better man being single than I ever could be while married!

Not sure why the yt algorithm showed me this video. Watched it to find out what the 10 things were (in case I was missing out😊). A bit of an eye opener! My wife and I are still happy after 48 years, and although some things have changed with age, and there have been some trials and rough patches, our love and friendship hasn't changed, and the 10 things haven't happened with us, at least not in a big way. I'm not commenting to make anyone feel bad, but I guess to say that there's hope that it can all work out. I think what helped us the most was being totally open and honest with each other about everything, before committing to a long term relationship, and continuing that honesty throughout. I admit however that there's also a large dose of luck involved in having two people meet that both share the same commitment to honesty.

I wish I had learned far earlier why not to get married.

I have to admit, 15 years into marriage with 2 children, being married is way worse than the worse case scenario. My wife said the 15 years passed fast. For me, it is like looking at a person that died 15 years ago.

...don't have time? Everyone has the same time. You chose what is important and use your time accordingly. No enough time? Drop something less important.

My wife kissed me first and after marriage resisted intimacy. We didn’t engage in intercourse before marriage. She would go out of her way to cause an argument if I was having difficulty with something.

Stopped wearing stockings and suspenders!

She stopped being nice right after the honeymoon. Yup . Honey moon wasnt even that good.. but I took vows I felt/feel I needed/need to keep.... I don't want to be a Covent breaker. For better or worse was apart of our vows. Going on year 26yrs right now. But I have called her out as abusive. She tries but always reverts back to her verbal and emotional abuse. She's a two faced woman. I don't even like her personality. Counseling always ends because she doesn't take any responsibility. I love her but I don't like her. I love her like you love an injured animal. I want her to heal but she never does. She has a complete Laque of self awareness.

Number 3 is number 1

I’m living that wonderful dream. Flashed me a 50 then gave me a five when we got married.

I recall a couple of occasions the preacher going on about porn and a husband responsibility for his wife. But did he ever comment about a wife responsibility which might explain the temptation of porn? Of course not

Let me see, A wife wants control, but craves chaos? Sounds insane to me.

Respectimg me, sex, taking care of herself, cooking, washing clothes, cleaning the house, etc.

I remember last summer when this channel had 2-3k subs and I knew it would explode. This channel is saving marriages and simultaneously infuriating many women. Your ability to express the dark side of female nature is helping so many men. We thank you! Your channel should be mandatory before receiving a marriage license. Women and accountability are like oil and water, not a good mix.

I was Very Lucky . i Saw all of this when i was young . the older men i worked with , going through this ! I though , do i really want to play this Game ? No Bloody Way ! Just Lucky i was , NOT , a Handsome Man !

Hahah number 2 - and this is said by woman with gray hair and overweight.

As a man what if you can’t have sex ? I had a second circumcision, had medical issues. She still left me.

I am a single man at my 30s . When i hear the stories of men who have been hurt so badly by the women whom supposed to be their most trusted people in their lifes man that makes me feel very very unpleasant about females .

Number three. Nice? Does not killing me in my sleep count as nice?

My wife hasn't changed at all. She still does what she did before we got married, she doesn't do anything she didn't do, apart from taking up crochet.

According to mine, my sense of humor is too off beat. What used to make her laugh, and laugh, and laugh, is now irritating. Sad for me as, anyone will tell you, if my lips are moving, I'm trying to be funny. Now, no laughter, minimal to no sex, and a personal issue every day. After that, her kids seem to be her prime interest. This causes issues as I don't supply financial support to my kids (all standing well on their own) let alone kids that aren't mine, who are still needy in their 30's and 40's. Sad that, to me, such is universal. Seems everyone wants support without exercising reciprocity. Ahhhh, reciprocity, the key to a happy relationship...

Wife Weight gain after marriage is the worse. You are not suppose to leave or complain - then you get the “ shallow” answer
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This is a 17 minute don't get married ad

Brilliant, true, insight.
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When we were married, I was still in College. We agreed that we would wait until I graduated to have kids. The next thing was, "Honey, I pregnant. Isn't it WONDERFUL?" --- er-- no. She was supposed to be in the pill, but deliberately quit.
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Remember it's not IF ITS WHEN.

A wife must realize that she needs to buy some aprons, as a man, i have some great memories when dating a single mother and one of those was her willingness to wear nothing but n apron while preparing a snack or surprising after changing out of clothes into an apron when their husband sits on the couch. You will realize as as men we go crazy for that. You do not know what will happen. Your man may not be able to wait for you and will become overtaken with an insatiable appetite for you. We are very simple as men. Yes we will always find hot women attractive but by far many men realize how much we invest in the women we love and we would always prefer to work it out because of the trust we have developed. Communication is truly everything. A wife should really have a dialogue like this, “ honey, take me to bed at your convenience.” Good luck

My wife out weighed me after marriage. I out weighed her by 50 when we got married

In my earlier days I dated a very attractive petite lady of 34. She made it quite obvious that she wanted to marry me and have children. I balked at that so she replaced me with another guy who did marry her. I saw her briefly a few years later and right away noticed she had put on considerable weight. After watching this video I wonder now how else she changed after marriage. Appears I dodged a bullet when she dumped me.

Thank you for this enlightening video. I've always thought I was alone in being scammed like this. Everything makes more sense now. Makes me feel stupid for being compassionate (as a naive baby Christian @ the time) in letting a couple major red flags go (prenuptial) when now I can see just how undeserving she was of my generosity (from her perspective, no doubt, 'male stupidity'). This also explains why women will occasionally let slip the fact they think men are inherently 'stupid', its because we men are oblivious to the fact we are being played (or the 'mark' in a scam) during the "dating game" phase of our life-threatening victimization. Yes, Life-threatening because I've seen men end up committing suicide by the time the Black Widow is done using them. This clip was a real wake up call for men to realize ignorance isn't bliss at all. Young men! You're not 'dating' or 'courting', the cold hard truth is you're being stalked by a cold-blooded, ruthless predator!!

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