Monday, January 9, 2023

How isn't it a cult?

What would you call this situation? A group that tells you that its leaders are infallible. They get their instructions from God who they have unique access to through the power of  their own intellect. If you criticize them you might be killed. They control you morning, noon, and night. It's for your own good. You are evil. If you are left alone, you will do bad things. All activities in life are prohibited except for an act of study that is really mental gymnastics and confusion. Even studying the Bible is a waste of time. You must always live in their enclave. You must not talk to anyone outside of it. The world is bad. All people are bad, except for those in the group, and even then you must only listen to the leader who had never worked a day in his life, who prides himself on his ignorance about the world. Inside you is the devil. The leaders are above this. You are not allowed to question them. If you do, bad things will happen to you. You hear the repetition? It's the theme. If you don't like this it only shows that the devil is controlling you. They keep you poor. They keep you sexually frustrated. They will tell you when you can have sex. When you finally are allowed to make a little money, you must give it to them. Your group is superior to the entire human race. The latter is not only inferior, it is nothing. It is bacteria. They have nothing to offer. 

This is the Manalist world, particularly in Eretz Yisroel. The Gemara doesn't say this stuff, but many contemporary rabbis do. But we don't study the parts of the Gemara that give a broader picture of things. I have a friend who spend 5 years in mainstream yeshivas. He said they covered total of 5 perakim of Gemara in all that time. When I was in yeshiva, we learned Baba Matzia, Kiddushin, and Beitzah. The young man near my house has studied Baba Matzia and Kiddushin. In Cheder they did Kiddushin and again in Yeshiva Katana. Now he's doing BM with the rest of the world. And they don't do the whole thing, just first and third chapters. With Kiddushin it's 1st and 2nd. Over and over again. Yes, there's a bikiyus shiur but only in those tractates and that's not what the bachurim review at night because the pressure is to learn the biyun. We only study certain parts, the most abstract and confusing parts. We skip over the parts that tell us about life. Yes, they skip over the aggadata or they put it in a separate shiur that nobody attends because they are drowning in work to get the biyun down. All you need to know about life is to study Torah, ie. the small part of the Gemara that we study for it's own sake, without any regard for the practical. 

Recently, I went to a yeshivish vort. It was such a depressing scene. Aggressive young men, stomping  around, not yielding any seats or moving an inch to accommodate anyone, looking like they are out to punch somebody, used plates all over the place that the caterer wasn't cleaning up, rabbis standing up to speak and failing to mention Hashem or building a solid home that serves Hashem, rather just praising the bachur for his hasmada in learning. 

In the times of the Tanach, there is much scolding from the prophets about idol worship but not about chilul Shabbos. The people were Shabbos observant, yet they worshiped idols. Remind you of anyone?


Friday, January 6, 2023

Brisker Gemara Lomdus with too many mefarshim damaged klal Yisroel

When did that happen, when it was pushed on all of klal Yisroel. Some years ago, I went to a local synagogue in America as they had there a kind of mini-yeshiva for baal habatim. I thought I would get involved in it. The rabbi - a Lakewood guy- pulled me into the office, gave me a Gemara exam (what else is new) and then preceded to pound me for an hour with a diatribe on the imperative of "deep" (he kept using that word) Torah learning, by which he meant Gemara lomdus on the yeshivishe mesectas using lots of mefarshim. Using that over-the-top, imperious, aggressive style which is characteristic of so many of these people, he just pounded me, mocking (don't they always mock something?) what he deemed those who learn superficially. I suppose he was referring to daf yomi. I was in such shock over his tirade that I really don't remember everything he said. But I do remember clearly hearing the name Aaron Kotler over and over. 

Now, I have no idea if Rabbi Kotler advocated this approach for everyone or just the 50 guys that were in his yeshiva at the time. But this rabbi was bent on imposing it on everyone. 

So here I am, an American baal habayis, and a BT at that. I had a terrible experience in yeshiva. He only knows the first part of that because he didn't get to know me at all before going on his diatribe. My mind went back to the time I checked out a EY based BT yeshiva as a possible alternative to the hellish place that I had foolishly allowed myself to be tricked into handing over my life. I came looking for the introduction to Torah observance that I wasn't getting. What did this rabbi do? He gave me a Gemara exam, on mesechta Succos. I remember the experience well. As I attempted to prepare for a half-hour, I kept thinking, why is he doing this? I'm a brand new BT. I'm trying to figure out if there's a God.

But to Manalim, Gemara lomdus is the deity. It's all they know and all they care about. I have heard more than once such guys saying "The Gemara is God." That exact phrase I have heard numerous times. And they push this on everyone. Despite their claims of being the real mesorah, they changed everything, changed the Yekkes, the Sefardim, and the Chassidim. They have everyone doing this Gemara lomdus all day long.

Want to know why? Because by itself it takes you away from God. It is cold and abstract and turns the mitzvos into an abstraction. Here's R' Menachem Genack's description of it. 

The essence of the Brisker derech approach is to view Talmudic discussions and debates through the prism of logical constructs and categories rather than common sense concepts. For example, one of the compelling ideas of Rav Chaim, which was developed by the Rav, involves shtarot, halachic documents. According to Rav Chaim, the legal power of the shtar goes well beyond any common sense, practical notion of a shtar’s legal force. There is a halachic principle that if one possesses a shtar which attests that another person owes him money, the other person is precluded from denying the claim because of an umdena, a presumption, called shtarcha b’yadi mai ba’i, “What is your shtar doing in my hands?” In other words, there is a presumption that if the debtor had already paid the loan referred to in the shtar, then the creditor would no longer be in possession of the shtar evidencing the debt. But, contended Rav Chaim, if the existence of the shtar merely gives rise to a presumption, a mere common sense inference from the facts that leads to a reasonable legal conclusion, what creates the halachic obligation that the debtor swear that he does not owe the debt? Instead, Rav Chaim explained, the shtar must be considered to constitute actual testimony that the loan was not paid, even though the legal force of the shtar is based only on an umdena. The Rav used to say in Yiddish, “Biz Reb Chaim, shtarot geven a chaspa b’alma”—before Rav Chaim shtarot were mere paper. Similarly, until Rav Chaim came and explained Yoreh Deah, the Rav said, it was just about pots and pans. Halachah had been a practical world but Rav Chaim coverted it into a conceptual world.

The Brisker derech involves conceptual categories. Halachic acts, thoughts and objects are all conceptualized and placed in categories. Once placed in the proper categories, the halachic and conceptual characteristics of the phenomena become more clearly defined and logically comprehensible. The Brisker emphasis on categorization explains the well-known Brisker attachment to the Rambam. The Rambam took the entire corpus of halachah and categorized all its elements in a strictly rational, analytical order. This is the same conceptual groundwork on which the Brisker derech is based.

A defining characteristic of the Brisker derech is that in the course of analyzing a sugya, one constantly asks, “What category does this fit into?” The question that is repeatedly posed is “What?” not “Why?”

This could be interesting, if done in measure. But all day long and nothing but that?

Just ask Rav Chaim Brisker who invented it. He told Rav Weissmandl, when you go to America, don't take this with you. He said he invented it to combat the haskala, to give an alternative to university studies. It wasn't intended to replace traditional learning. The Hungarian way was to set up your own communities outside of the main cities. In Poland, Jews lived largely in big cities, which is why there's so much traifis and harshness in some of Polish Jewry. The Torah learning for the masses was basic peshot, Ein Yaakov aggadata, Shulchan Aruch, Zohar. That's also what they did in Breslov and what the Yeminities did. In the Chassidic world in general it was like that. Rebbe Nachman discouraged lomdus. He told one student who was heavy into it to stop. Why would he do that? I'm theorizing that it's because it takes you away from avodas Hashem if you are not careful with it. The Satmar Rebbe said this lomdus was going to destroy klal Yisroel. You had scholars in the Chassidic world, in Hungary, in Sefardic lands. For sure you had that. But the average person did better by learning the old fashioned way. The Manalim don't care about that. They only care about fame and fortune from being the biggest scholar at the most prestigious yeshiva. Hang around these guys. It's all they ever talk about. They don't care about the masses at all. 

Now, Rabbi Soloveitchik loved Brisker Torah and argued how it's a religious experience. He makes a good case, but Rabbi Soloveitchik was a genius and he knew all sorts of philosophy. His commentary on Chumash is mesmerizing. His commentary on Kinos is incredible. Brisker Torah was only part of his Torah knowledge. So for him it was a religious experience. But that doesn't mean you should impose it on 16 year old boys whose fore-brains are still being developed. 

The Maharal complained about pilpul. He said it was a shame the printers put Tosfos on the Gemara page. They should have put the Rosh, so people would be prompted to learn halacha. 

The Chofetz Chaim in a letter said one should learn the RIF (which is halacha) and then learn the Talmud. 

The Karliner Rebbe said you should learn at least one aggadata a day because it shows you Hashem. 

Why is mesechta brochos the first in the Talmud? It teaches you to thank Hashem. I told a contemporary Rosh Yeshiva that I was learning brochos and he sort of smirked like isn't that cute, not a real mesechta.

The Vilna Gaon was opposed to starting yeshivas. After Chaim Volozhin came to him several times he reluctantly said OK. In those days, if you wanted to be a lamdan, you came and learned with a scholar. Torah wasn't institutionalized. In the times of the Temple, they'd sit on the floor, put books on cushions and hear aggadata and halacha from a tzadick. That's why there is so much halacha in the Midrash. The scholar had to be a tzadick, and you were getting exposure to the tzadick. Today, all that matters is genius. You can be nasty and be a "big rabbi". And some of them are exactly that. 

The Manalim have damaged the world, the Jewish world and therefore the whole world. It started small. It's like Esav was an idealistic man but injected a poison that grew into cancer that became Amalek. Esav wasn't Amalek, but Amalek emerged from him. The first pilpulim were cute. It was a thing to do not a way of life. But it has became a black plague on Judaism. 

There used to be an idea that a student had to be worthy to learn Torah. Today, having a high IQ is all that matters. And those people do well in the Gemara lomdus and become our leaders. I was told recently of a bachur who was told he could go to any yeshiva because he's good at Gemara. It's not about his middos or anything like that. It's all about hasmada.

Wednesday, January 4, 2023

Come to shiur

I read a famous Mashgiach talk about his work at a yeshiva. His job was to make sure the boys came on time. If they were late, he'd fine them or not let them in. That's it. That's all he did. That's the spiritual adviser at a Manalist yeshiva. Was there any insight into the boys? Was there any understanding of how they might not been so keen to arrive on time so they could spend the next 14 hours arguing about Gemara abstractions? None of that. All they ever do is say, come to shiur. If he came to shiur he'd understand the Gemara. That's what they'll say. Yet the shiur is a cluster f, if you know the term. It's a balygon. It's the Tazmanian devil, as the shiur masters make everything as confusing as possible, in mixed languages, none of which they ever teach. But if it doesn't work out, it's because you didn't come to shiur, to be idle, to be confused, to be crushed, day after day after day. And why? Because Gemara lomdus is their god. The shiur is a kind of pseudo religious ceremony just like a rock n'roll concert with all its trappings is a kind of fantasy fake religious experience. It's voodoo. If you wave your thumbs around and rant like an auctioneer and say as much pilpulim as possible, it will make the life wonderful. Hokus pokus. And it's all they know, all they care about. They don't care about people, about their own students. They run schools but have no interest in education. They don't really run schools. They run yeshivas, which are Gemara factories. They are slave masters. They are the factory bosses and they start yeshivas so they can continue with their Gemara worship. 

Tuesday, January 3, 2023

Divrei Torah QA Can Gedolim Be Misled - RABBI YAAKOV SHAPIRO

 https://torah.buzzsprout.com/1190621/11967515

Devarim

13 Prepare for yourselves wise and understanding men, known among your tribes, and I will make them heads over you. יגהָב֣וּ לָ֠כֶ֠ם אֲנָשִׁ֨ים חֲכָמִ֧ים וּנְבֹנִ֛ים וִֽידֻעִ֖ים לְשִׁבְטֵיכֶ֑ם וַֽאֲשִׂימֵ֖ם בְּרָֽאשֵׁיכֶֽם:
prepare for yourselves: Heb. לָכֶם הָבוּ. Prepare yourselves for this matter. הבו לכם: הזמינו עצמכם לדבר:
men: Would it enter your mind [that] women [could be chosen]? What does [specifying] “men” teach us? [It signifies that they should pick] righteous men. (Sifrei). אנשים: וכי תעלה על דעתך נשים, מה תלמוד לומר אנשים, צדיקים:
wise [men]: Desirable [men]. [According to the glosses of Rabbi Akiva Eiger on Sifrei, bashful men, men who are ashamed of doing anything wrong.] [According to Heidenheim, the word כְּסוּפִים is the definition of אֲנָשִׁים, not of חֲכָמִים According to him, the next heading reads: חכמים: כסופים:
understanding [men]: [I.e., men] who understand [and derive] one thing from another. This is what Arius asked Rabbi Yose: “What is the difference between wise men and understanding men?” [Rabbi Yose said] "A wise man is like a rich money changer: When people bring him dinars to examine, he examines them. When they do not bring [money] to him, he sits doing nothing. An understanding man, however, is like a merchant money changer: When they bring him money to examine, he examines it, and when they do not bring it to him, he goes out and brings his own [money-i.e., he does not wait for people to come to him-he goes to them] (Sifrei) נבונים: מבינים דבר מתוך דבר. זו היא ששאל אריוס את רבי יוסי, מה בין חכמים לנבונים. חכם דומה לשולחני עשיר, כשמביאין לו דינרין לראות רואה, וכשאין מביאין לו יושב ותוהא. נבון דומה לשולחני תגר, כשמביאין לו מעות לראות רואה, וכשאין מביאין לו מחזר ומביא משלו:
well-known among your tribes: Men whom you recognize, for if one were to come before me wrapped in his tallith, I would not know who he is and of what tribe he is, and whether he is suitable. But you know him, for you have raised him. Therefore, it says,“well-known among your tribes.” (Sifrei) וידועים לשבטיכם: שהם ניכרים לכם, שאם בא לפני מעוטף בטליתו איני יודע מי הוא ומאיזה שבט הוא ואם הגון הוא, אבל אתם מכירין בו, שאתם גידלתם אותו, לכך נאמר וידועים לשבטיכם:
and I will make them heads over you: As chiefs and respected persons over you, i.e., you should act towards them with respect and reverence. בראשיכם: ראשים ומכובדים עליכם שתהיו נוהגין בהם כבוד ויראה:


So the Sifrei says, "well-known among your tribes: Men whom you recognize, for if one were to come before me wrapped in his tallith, I would not know who he is and of what tribe he is, and whether he is suitable. But you know him, for you have raised him. Therefore, it says,“well-known among your tribes.” (Sifrei)

But when Yisro advised Moshe earlier to pick judges he said: 

Shemos

21 
But you shall choose out of the entire nation men of substance, God fearers, men of truth, who hate monetary gain, and you shall appoint over them [Israel] leaders over thousands, leaders over hundreds, leaders over fifties, and leaders over tens. כאוְאַתָּ֣ה תֶֽחֱזֶ֣ה מִכָּל־הָ֠עָ֠ם אַנְשֵׁי־חַ֜יִל יִרְאֵ֧י אֱלֹהִ֛ים אַנְשֵׁ֥י אֱמֶ֖ת שׂ֣נְאֵי בָ֑צַע וְשַׂמְתָּ֣ עֲלֵהֶ֗ם שָׂרֵ֤י אֲלָפִים֙ שָׂרֵ֣י מֵא֔וֹת שָׂרֵ֥י חֲמִשִּׁ֖ים וְשָׂרֵ֥י עֲשָׂרֹֽת:

But you shall choose: with the holy spirit that is upon you. — [from Mechilta] ואתה תחזה: ברוח הקודש שעליך

The Satmar Rebbe asks, if Moshe had ruach hakodesh why did he say you should choose these men because you know them. He answers, because ruach hakodesh doesn't mean you know everything. Sometimes Hashem tells you and sometimes he doesn't.



Monday, January 2, 2023

Protect your dignity

When you allow yourself to be degraded, you get even more degraded. It worsens and worsens as your self-respect declines and your standards erode. You wind up like the slave in the dungeon at the pawn shop in the movie Pulp Fiction. As Bruce Springsteen sang, "You get used to anything. Pretty soon it just becomes your life." 

What happens in cults, is that they take advantage of your idealism and turn it against you. If you don't accept relentless criticism that is actually abuse, that's because you don't want to grow. That's what they tell you. It's your arrogance that won't accept ridiculous amounts of rebuke about impossible matters. It's your unwillingness to let go of control that prevents you from allowing some stranger to take over your life. This is what they tell you. They tell you it's your job to sleep on the floor, to go without nutrition, or to just marry anyone, no matter how crazy, and to be only gracious to that person no matter what he/she does to you. This goes on in the frum world, goes on all the time particularly to baalei teshuvah, particularly to baal teshuva men. (When I refer to BTs, I include converts for whom all of this is probably even worse.) 

What to do? You can't allow yourself to be degraded on a regular basis. There are moments that it happens in life. You deal with it, but you don't invite it or stay in a place where it's regular. I saw men get so abused in dating that they wound up marrying a bad person because their sensitivities had been squashed. They were tolerating a sick situation and even wrapping themselves around it. Their avodah became indulging abuse against them. It starts when you allow yourself to be treated like garbage that first time and then that second time. Then comes a third time and a fourth. Then it becomes your life. 

Even in dating, you must require that you be treated like a human being. If the only people who will treat you that way are older and marrying one of them means less children or no children, so be it. It's fanaticism to say that you'll marry a nasty person so you can have more children to serve Hashem. It's fantasy to imagine that you'll be tzadick enough to handle it. You hear these odd stories about tzadickim who handled impossible spouses. The stories are probably not accurate because probably the situations weren't quite as bad as portrayed. A nasty wife or husband in the 12th century or even in the early 20th probably still functioned like a mentch most of the time, still did his or her job, earned a living, made dinner, etc. Today, it's another matter. There are people all over the place that are completely out of control, addicted to drugs or booze, completely narcissistic and irresponsible. But that's not the only reason the stories are not useful as told.  They are problematic if presented as the way you should live your life. You can apply some of it, but you can't tolerate abuse all day long, despite what the stories suggest.

One of the main rules of being a BT is to protect your basic dignity. There are people who will take it away from you and be proud of themselves for doing so. Hold on to your brain and your dignity at all times. 

Sunday, January 1, 2023

you can walk around that fence

 



Who's got the mesorah

The claim from the Manalim is that they have the mesorah, that the Chassidim and the Modern Orthodox deviated from it. The Sephardim have their own mesorah which is inferior and not for us. That's the attitude.

But is it so? Any Yekke knows that the Yeshivish siddurim have all kinds of deviations from the original Ashkenaz siddurim. Birchos HaTorah is in the wrong place. Korbonos have been added. Even Hodu is a later addition. All the kabbalistic stuff is not part of the Ashkenazi mesorah for tefillah, eg Baruch Shemei.

Beyond that, there's Brisker learning derech that dominates the frum world. This was invented by R' Chaim Brisker. It's what they do all day long. But it's an innovation. It's not traditional. It's the Brisker learning derech, not the Babylonian one, not the First Temple Period one. There are people alive today who saw R' Chaim Brisker. It wasn't that long ago.

Then there's the parts of the Gemara that they skip, like aggadatos, non-yeshivish mesechtas, teachings like teach your son a trade, age 18 to the chupah, learn from the good of the goyim (and don't imitate the bad). What goes on in the yeshivah world isn't the mesorah.

Not teaching halacha isn't the mesorah. 

Then there's all the halacha that has been learned from books, rather than mimetically as it was done for millennia. The Mishneh Brurah dominates halacha, but the series is a century old. It's new.

The very word yeshivish is a giveaway. Jews in the shtetl didn't build their lives around yeshivas. They built them around the community, the shul, and the family. The kehilla had a rav. If there was a yeshivah somewhere in that part of the country, the Rosh Yeshivah had nothing to do with the community. He didn't dominate. He ran his yeshiva of 100 students. Being yeshivish is itself an innovation and not the mesorah. The very word they use to describe themselves is an innovation.

Lots more to say here. You could write books about this. The yeshivish derech is no closer to the mesorah than any other derech.