Tuesday, March 18, 2025

He shall rule over you

The Torah says to the woman, your desire shall be unto him and he shall rule over you. In other words, obey your husband. I realize that sounds barbaric to those who have been indoctrinated by feminism, but does having six foot two male athletes in women's sports and women's locker rooms also sound barbaric because that's where feminism has got us.

If the posuk says to listen to the husband, then there's great meaning behind it. Some say you can't have two drivers. Some say the man is more logical and women more emotional. Some say it's a lesson in humility. All good. But there's something else. If Ha-Shem is going to invest that responsibility in the husband, then Ha-Shem is going to equip the husband with the abilities to carry out the responsibility successfully.

We see with great poskim that Ha-Shem gives them extra help. We see with great rabbis that Ha-Shem gives them special wisdom. I see this with Rabbi Miller, the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Rav Moshe Sternbuch and others, that they say things that show an unusual sensitivity and wisdom that seem supernatural. It is. Ha-Shem is helping them.

So too the husband, in a much smaller way, but enough to help the family. If you have a normal husband, not a raving nut, but a guy who does try to do the right thing, you must obey him when he insists upon it, because he's getting special assistance.

However, baalas teshuvah are taught that men are inferior. They are taught that women "are on a  higher plane." All that is false of course. There are no Torah sources that say that.  But that's what kiruv people will say to cajole the women to become Orthodox even though the religious life appears to contradict their feminist training. What does the rabbi care if he ruins home after home? He cares about scoring a few points, bringing a few people in, feeling like a bigshot, and getting paid for that. 

So it's up to you ladies, to become knowledgeable, to know that the kiruv rabbi misled you, and the posuk is helping you to do things the right way. And that means listening to your husband on big matters that he has researched and put thought into. Ha-Shem is guiding him.

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