Shocked? Let's examine the traits.
Superiority. To say that the NLs have a posture of superiority doesn't capture it. To say that they view everybody else as worthless doesn't capture it. They view everyone else as dangerous, bad, foolish, stupid, and evil. That includes all other Orthodox groups.
Grandiosity. Each boy is to become a gadol, ie a genius. The great basketball player M. Jordan said goals have to be reachable. That each person is supposed to make himself into a genius pure grandiosity.
Overestimation of intellectual ability. They have an answer for everything, even subjects they know nothing about like vaccines and politics. I know a rabbi who insisted that French is the largest language. He doesn't speak a word of it. What's the truth:
According to Larousse, the French language has approximately 135,000 words.
The exact number of words in the Russian language is difficult to determine but is estimated to be over 200,000 words in major dictionaries.
The English language contains over one million words. Dictionaries like the Oxford English Dictionary list around 600,000.
French is smaller in part because it is controlled by a board of reviewers of new words. English is larger because it is a combination of French, German, and other languages and allows in everything. But he not only doesn't know any of that, but even after being told didn't change his view. NLs are that way about everything.
Lack of accountability. Nothing is their fault, particularly not the rabbis. They are perfect. Everything that goes wrong in the world is the fault of somebody else. I know an incompetent kiruv rabbi who deems every BT who leaves the fold as "not really Jews." Any bochur who can't deal with over the top pilpul just isn't trying. It's never the rabbi's fault. Nothing is the fault of NL society, only the gentiles or the reform Jews.
Lack of empathy. When was the last time you witnessed empathy in a Litvack for anybody or anything? Take Gaza for example. But long before Gaza. Where is the empathy for all the boys who don't "succeed" in their yeshivas? Where is the empathy for all the impoverished Jews who can't earn a living because they were prevented from getting training or job experience in yeshiva? Where is empathy of BTs or converts?
Dishonesty. Kiruv is all dishonesty. The kiruv seminar is promises of 70 faces and "whatever you do now you'll be better at." Yeshiva is the world is bad. Only we have the mesorah. Study Torah. But that is not the only dishonesty. How about you don't need to earn a parnassah. The money will magically appear. Or you don't need health insurance as one rosh yeshiva told me. Or how about rabbi so and so "knows everything." Or how about pushing singles into marriages on the promise that "you'll be fine." How about dishonesty in fundraising, like one group that doesn't give financial support but will "help you with your resume." Smart chesed they call it. Meanwhile they take the money from their incessant fundraising and build a 3 story, 2 wing building for themselves in Israel?
Entitlement. They are entitled to just study all day and to receive endless cavod. Your job is to supply it. You are the narcissistic supply. They are entitled to the best shiduch no matter who they are. The women are entitled to be wined and dined until they are 50 at which time they are entitled to a fancy house.
Living in fantasy. I just described several examples of that. Nothing else matters but Torah study. That's fantasy. Your rabbi is always right. That's fantasy. We have the truth is fantasy.
Hot tempers. Hurting others with words. Vengeance. Bad middos. Shallowness. We have all seen it.
It's a narcissistic culture. There could be exceptions but basically that's the culture.
