Rambam, Hilchos Ishus, 15:17
17It is an obligation for a man to admonish42 his wife.Our Sages declared:43 “A man will not admonish his wife unless a spirit of purity enters his being.” Nevertheless, he should not admonish her more than necessary.44 A man should never compel his wife to engage in maritalrelations against her will. Instead, relations should be with her agreement, preceded by conversation and a spirit of joy.45
18Similarly, our Sages commanded a woman to conduct herself modestly at home, not to proliferate levity or frivolity before her husband, not to request intimacy verbally,46 nor to speak about this matter. She should not deny her husband intimacy to cause him anguish, so that he should increase his love for her. Instead, she should oblige him whenever he desires. She should keep her distance from his relatives and the members of his household so that he will not be provoked by jealousy and should avoid scandalous situations - indeed, any trace of scandal.47
19Similarly, our Sages commanded that a man honor his wife more than his own person, and love her as he loves his own person. If he has financial resources, he should offer her benefits in accordance with his resources. He should not cast a superfluous measure of fear over her. He should talk with her gently, being neither sad nor angry.
20And similarly, they commanded a woman to honor her husband exceedingly and to be in awe of him. She should carry out all her deeds according to his directives, considering him to be an officer or a king. She should follow the desires of his heart and shun everything that he disdains. This is the custom of holy and pure Jewish women and men in their marriages. And these ways will make their marriage pleasant and praiseworthy.
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