An Open Letter
Concerning the Immodesty of Shells Worn as Outer Garments
My Dear Chaveirim,
The wearing of elastic, tightly
fitted, and thin shells as outer garments by women in the Orthodox Jewish
community is becoming widespread. In the view of numerous rabbanim with whom I have sought guidance, the shells worn as such often
violate laws of tznius as well as those
prohibiting following in the ohudv ,ueuj. I am writing to you
to direct your attention to the issue.
Shells originally entered the
Orthodox Jewish world as a mechanism for countering mild transparency in
women’s garments. Worn as an undergarment for blouses and dresses that were
borderline modest, the shells added bulk to the materials to render them
opaque. While not the pinnacle of modesty, this approach did help to achieve a
basic modesty for women that struggled to find intrinsically modest garments in
stores. It is important to note that the shells purchased for this purpose were
sized to be tight-fitting so that they would fit under the outer garment. They
were constructed of light and elastic material for the same purpose.
In recent months however, many
women have taken to wearing the same tight-fitting shells with garments that
are not themselves modest in any sense of the term. I refer to tank tops,
vests, halter-tops, spaghetti string tops, short sleeve shirts, and sleeveless
dresses. The idea seems to be that
pairing a patently immodest garment with another patently immodest garment will
somehow yield a modest one. However, the wearing of tight-fitting shells as
an outer garment on the shoulders, back, arms, and, chest is immodest.
On the subject of tight-fitting
clothing and shells, the distinguished posek
HaRav Yaakov E. Forchheimer, t’’yhka, of Lakewood ,
New Jersey , writes as follows:
This
is applicable to shells as well. A shell worn in a manner in which it is
clearly visible (such as if the upper garment is left somewhat open or if the
shell is worn under a lace top) must be loose, so as not to reveal the shape of
the body. Recently many of the shells on the market have a very snug fit. These
shells may not be worn in the above manner.
Many
people have some difficulty in defining for themselves what falls into the
category of tight or form-fitting. Unfortunately, today’s frame of reference
has changed due to the fact that clothing is being manufactured in tighter
styles than in the past. What used to be perceived as normal can mistakenly be
seen as oversized by today’s norms. In addition, the manufacturers are
deliberately mislabeling the garments leading customers to purchase clothes
that are too tight for them (for example, a woman who knows her size to be a medium
will buy a garment labeled “M”, which really should be labeled small). To help
one make the proper judgment, it is strongly advisable for every woman to have
someone reliable to whom she can show her clothes in order to determine what is
appropriate and what is not. In addition, a woman should keep in mind when
shopping that the labels are misleading, and that in order to find something
appropriate for her true size she many need to purchase garments one or two
sizes larger than usual. (kkv,, thv, A
Practical Guide to Tznius, pp. 32-3, published by iuhkd, 62 Arosa Hill, Lakewood, NJ,
08701)
In personal communication with the writer of this letter, Rabbi
Forchheimer stated that it is prohibited to wear tight clothing on the
shoulders and “It is a proper and
recommended practice to cover the upper arms with a loose garment.”
As HaRav Pesach Eliyahu Falk t’’yhka explains in his book Modesty – An Adornment for Life, p. 292,
the power of the arms to attract is clearly noted in Torah literature. The Midrash (Bereishis 80:5) tells us that the exposing of Dinah’s arms
triggered the tragic incident with Shechem. Rabbi Falk points out that the Chofetz Chaim zt’l and the Gerer Rebbe zt’l wrote public letters that
specifically mentioned the need to cover arms. Says Rabbi Falk, “This should strengthen our realization
that a woman’s arms have a powerful effect of inviting undesirable attention.”
It is the view of this writer that today’s skintight elastic garments produce
an effect similar to that of exposing bare arms.
In addition to violations of tznius, the wearing of shells with
intrinsically immodest garments involves a possible Torah prohibition against
following in the ways of the gentiles. Rabbi Forchheimer writes as follows:
The ost
,nfj writes that one who wears
non-Jewish styles of clothing transgresses the
t,hhruts
ruxht of ufk,
tk ovh,ueujcu
(among other ihutk), which is
punishable in beis din with ,uekn. This
issur applies to any style of
clothing which the goyim manufacture
for the sake of pritzus. (A Practical Guide to Tznius, p. 35)
There are options other than shells
for women who seek a garment to supplement dresses and tops that do not fall
under the category of ohudv ,ueuj. These options, which are widely available, are
blouses and dress shirts. Made of a stiffer, thicker cotton or polyester, they
do not cling to the skin and reveal body shape. These garments are in
themselves modest or borderline modest such that pairing them with another
garment will render a far more acceptable look than a shell with the same
garment. Every school day Bais Yaakov girls
in uniforms wear modest dress shirts.
It should go without saying that
this letter is not meant to minimize the general challenge faced by Jewish
women in maintaining tznius in this
deeply troubled era. It should also go without saying the tremendous
importance, the centrality, of tznius
within the community and in the religious service of Jewish women. As the Midrash says about Hashem’s formation of the first woman, “As He created each limb, He
said to her, ‘Be a modest woman, a modest woman.’” (Midrash Rabbah, Bereishis
18:2)
With hopes for the speedy arrival of Moshiach,
A Concerned Member of the Community
5 comments:
Thank you so much for this post.
Please read my post here,
http://modestjewishclothing.blogspot.com/2013/05/immodest-shell-update.html
that addresses this issue some time back.
I just wanted to point out that if a garment containing (not made exclusively of) lycra is clingy and form fitting it is either designed to be so or it is NOT the right size. I use such fabrics to make both snoods and tznius garments, but one must be careful to leave enough ease so that clothing is not form fitting.
As a side point, I mainly buy my daughters sleeveless shells so they know they are not intended to add sleeves to a sleeveless garment. the one shell I let a daughter wear with something short sleeved is NOT tight on her upper arms. it's probably technically a size or two "too big" but it works for her.
I just wanted to point out that if a garment containing (not made exclusively of) lycra is clingy and form fitting it is either designed to be so or it is NOT the right size. I use such fabrics to make both snoods and tznius garments, but one must be careful to leave enough ease so that clothing is not form fitting.
As a side point, I mainly buy my daughters sleeveless shells so they know they are not intended to add sleeves to a sleeveless garment. the one shell I let a daughter wear with something short sleeved is NOT tight on her upper arms. it's probably technically a size or two "too big" but it works for her.
Yes, certainly form fitting makes everything go haywire. However, Lycra clings even when loose. I don't think one will ever achieve the pinnacle of tznius with lyrca garments. (I’m not talking about head coverings). And not only that, since lyrca is generally worn tight, it takes on an immodest connotation much like denim. But all that is a matter of levels and I'm not going to get upset about levels above the acceptable one in this crazy day and age.
So shells that are tight on the upper arms really are improper. On the lower arms it's not as bad, but in my view still not acceptable. I speak not as a posek but as a man. I'm telling you what draws my eye.
According to Rabbi Forsheimmer, tight on the shoulders is completely osur. I see plenty of that around town. ON Shavuous my wife and I saw a woman with a flesh colored skin tight shell – I kid you not – and a spaghetti string halter.
Please note that Rabbi Forsheimmer says that garments that are inherently immodest cannot be worn even with a loose shell or blouse. The issur there is chukas hagoyim. I see the wisdom in that because one is conscious that the woman is wearing an immodest garment. A old fashion jumper is not inherently immodest since it was designed to be worn with a shirt.
Simple solution to all of this: blouses and dress shirts. They look so much prettier and more dignified. Shells look cheap to me. Blouses have class.
I saw someone the other day in a very loose shell made of cotton (not clingy material). She was wearing a completely immodest top over it (low cut, very short sleeves that draw attention to upper arms more than a sleeveless top). She would have been better off to wear this loose-fitting shell alone than with the immodest top. Wish I could say something but it has become so widespread people will think I'm a nut.
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