intelligence or courage?

 

Kabbalah or Litvishism

 The Litvaks will tell you to stay away from Kabbalah at least until you're 40, by which time you have repressed the interest. The reason supposedly is that it will destabilize you. I say Litvishism is far more destabilizing. When they tell you to stay in Kollel forever, to delay marriage, to study only Lomdus, to hate the world, to hate yourself, that study is worth all your mitzvos, to not go a moment without study, to obey your dumb rav, that will destabilize you. They are projecting.

chizuk

 "Life is too short to sit anywhere except where you're supposed to be. And if you're sitting at a table where you don't feel like you're being fed, even in you're bringing a plate of food, you politely just leave."

You leave

"Life is too short to sit anywhere except where you're supposed to be. And if you're sitting at a table where you don't feel like you're being fed, even in you're bringing a plate of food, you politely just leave."