Tuesday, April 25, 2023

love bombing and the lure of wealth

 

Websites and marketing aside, there's also deceptive recruiting via love bombing and the lure of wealth. As one man wrote

The outreach people come at you with an overabundance of artificial friendliness that is temporary. You get besieged with Shabbos invitations that also go away once your brain has been switched over to fear of hell for failure to comply. Much of the outreach takes place on college campuses which are billion dollar facilities that the outreach people pretend to be their own. My first Shabbosim were spent in million dollar homes, one after the next. Yet within two years they had me sleeping on a basement floor, prohibiting me from getting a job in order to buy some food because it would interfere with my Torah study.

None of that is from the Torah which demands authenticitiy and frowns on flattery and genevas daas. The latter term is translated as stealing of the mind, meaning creating false impressions. Certainly, we should be friendly but not unnaturally so and not with ulterior motives. People who didn't stay with Orthodoxy have reported to me how the same people who gushed at them with interest refuse to even look at them now. As for earning a living, the Torah actually tells you to get a job and not rely on others for support. So, we say again, yes there is all kinds of funny business going on with kiruv, but none of it is sanctioned by the Torah, none of it is proper Judaism.

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