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 Most important thing for BTs is to get married. This is 1000x more important than learning Torah in yeshiva or at all. Here's an interesting stat:

For adolescents and people age 70 and over, masturbation was more common than sex with a partner. As for frequency, about a quarter of the men between the ages of 18 and 59 masturbated a few times per month to weekly. Roughly 20% masturbated 2 to 3 times each week. Less than 20% masturbated more than 4 times a week.

What is the “normal” frequency of masturbation?: Center for Female and Male Sexual Medicine: Urologists (njsexualmedicine.com)

Here's more: According to World's Largest Masturbation Survey, 92% of American men masturbate 

World's Largest Masturbation Survey Uncovers How Traditional Views of Masculinity Prevent Men from Having Fulfilling Sex Lives & Relationships (prnewswire.com)

• 17% had not masturbated in the past year
• 15% masturbate a few times per year to monthly
• 25% masturbate a few times per month to weekly
• 23% masturbate 2 to 3 times per week
• 20% masturbate more than 4 times per week

How Often Men Masturbate: What's Healthy vs. "Too Much" | mindbodygreen

How often men masturbate.

Some men masturbate weekly, some men masturbate daily, some masturbate a few times a month, and still others hardly masturbate at all. All of these masturbation frequencies are considered within the normal range for men.

Here's how often men between ages 25 and 29 masturbate, according to 2009 data from the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, as collected by FiveThirtyEight:

• 17% had not masturbated in the past year
• 15% masturbate a few times per year to monthly
• 25% masturbate a few times per month to weekly
• 23% masturbate 2 to 3 times per week
• 20% masturbate more than 4 times per week

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In comparison, a 2008 study1 of British people between ages 16 and 44 found 73% of men had masturbated in the past four weeks,

How Often Men Masturbate: What's Healthy vs. "Too Much" | mindbodygreen

That stat is for men in general. Jewish men aren't allowed to masturbate so they need a release. Marriage is the only way. Note, that stat isn't for single men but all men in that age group. So you see even married gentile men are masturbating. 

But that's just one issue. Another is loneliness. Shabbos shouldn't be solitary confinement which is what it is like for singles. You can lose the ability to deal with this religion if you are not married - to somebody you like. That is essential. Don't worry about fertility. If a man is 40 and meets a 40 year old woman he likes, he should marry her. Having lots of babies just isn't in the cards for everyone. 

Same with religious ambitions. You want somebody in the ball park but getting all worked up about whether he has a chavrusa or a rav is foolish. This is where many of the woman stumble as they operate from all kinds of religious demands that they have been fed. That instead of getting to know a person and appreciating who they are. FFBs who obsess about somebody being a BT is also foolish. 

Look for someone you like. Don't worry so much about religion or fertility or money. Go for compatability.